Quotes About Compassion

with that in unbiased and will hopefully understand my feelings.

It is a disquieting fact that we tend to find villains more interesting than their victims – in fiction and in reality – but the Nuremberg Trials revealed that in real life criminals and murderers are invariably colourless individuals, who lack personality as well as compassion and conscience. It is their victims who frequently display courage and endurance beyond normal human experience. And

But I revere women and I think it unsportsmanlike to kill children…

She simply could not imagine lives ending so soon. Oh, you poor young men, she thought wildly.

Do you even know what gay stands for? Well, let me tell you. G-A-Y. Got Aids yet?

For men to love each other truly, they must have shed tears together.

You seem to like everybody. It's unnatural. It's also unfortunate. You're going to waste so much time before you've worked out who the people are it's worth your while to know.

Judging others and being quick to criticize just pollutes your life. Learning how to open your hand is the best thing you can possibly learn.

The more opportunity I have to treat people the way I wished I myself had been treated, the better I feel.

you get nothing with a fist that you can't get in multitudes with your hand open.

The only thing that helps me get less angry is when my husband says to me, "I know you are scared, not angry" and gives me a

didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it. get off the BP's back. get out of the BP's way. get on with your own life.

People with BPD look to others to provide things they find difficult to supply for themselves, such as self-esteem, approval, and a sense of identity. Most of all, they are searching for a nurturing caregiver whose never-ending love and compassion will fill the black hole of emptiness and despair inside them.

So I decided to write my own self-help book. Because BPD affects six million people in North America, I figured that at least eighteen million family members, partners, and friends—like me—were blaming themselves for behavior that had little to do with them.

Remember, your loved one's behavior is not about you. You may feel controlled or taken advantage of through threats, no-win situations, the silent treatment, rages, and other methods that seem unfair. But, no matter what the person with BPD may say, everything that's going on stems not from you, but from the disorder, and the deep pain your loved one feels inside.

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgment or condemnation of the person or situation from which I am detaching. It is simply a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism [substitute "BPD behavior"] has upon our lives.

For the first time, I understood on a gut level that those years of unprovoked emotional assaults weren't really about me. They probably resulted from his own sense of shame and his intense fears of being abandoned. The discovery that he was a victim, too, turned some of my anger into compassion.

Do not disparage the BP—no matter how much you think he or she deserves it. Instead, sincerely express your concern for the BP or acknowledge your own confusion about why the BP would say such things. Be cautious about discussing BPD or any other psychological problem—people may misunderstand and think you are trying to belittle the BP.

When I was a kid, "selfish" was an insult in my home. It was something only "bad" people indulged in. But I learned that it was only when I started taking care of myself that I was really able to care for others.

The holy grail of the life of someone with BPD is to find that caring, compassionate person who will magically fill their empty insides, take care of them and their needs, and never leave them feeling alone again.

Pay attention to the person's words, body language, expressions, and tone of voice. This will help you validate the person's feelings. People with BPD are not always in touch with their own emotions, and by listening closely you may be able to hear beyond the words and detect the feelings that lie beneath the surface. In

Your feelings need to be validated just as much as those of the person with BPD.

Elan Golomb (1992) says: To grow up as a whole person, children in their formative stages need the experience of genuine acceptance; they have to know they are truly seen and yet are perfect in their parent's eyes; they need to stumble and sometimes fall, only to be greeted by a parent's commiserating smile. Through parental acceptance, children learn that their "is-ness," their essential selves, merit love.

Reflective listening is another helpful style of communicating where you give the speaker your impression of what he or she is feeling to show you are listening and that you care.