Quotes About Boundaries

En nuestra cultura se confunden las cosas. No se acepta que pueda querer mucho a mi pareja y a la vez que pueda disfrutar con otras personas. Partimos siempre de la falsa idea de que la persona adecuada puede y debe darme todo lo que necesito.

Por eso suelo decir que el codependiente no ama; él necesita, él reclama, él depende, pero no ama

un pájaro y un pez pueden enamorarse y hasta casarse, pero ¿dónde harían el nido?

Por lo demás, éramos sólo dos buenos amigos que se abrieron sus vidas para mostrarse cómo eran, dos amigos que, y apenas hoy me doy cuenta, no podían vivir el uno sin el otro, y que de tanto estar juntos se volvieron imprescindibles, y que de tanto quererse como amigos, uno de ellos quiso más de la cuenta, más de lo que una amistad permite, porque para que una amistad perdure todo se admite, menos que alguno la traicione metiéndole amor

Der gewöhnliche Sterbliche ist nicht nur zufrieden, sondern geradezu stolz, daß er innerhalb der etablierten Grenzen bleibt, und die geläufigen Ansichten tun das ihre, sein Zagen schon vor dem ersten Schritt ins Unerforschte zu bestätigen.

Oriental idea: you don't teach until you are asked. You don't force your mission down people's throats.) And so the boy

In bounded communities, aggression is projected outward. For example, the ten commandments say, "Thou shalt not kill." Then the next chapter says, "Go into Canaan and kill everybody in it." That is a bounded field. The myths of participation and love pertain only to the in-group, and the out-group is totally other.

It is a terrible thing for an author to have a lot of people running about his book without any invitation from him at all.

In nature there are few sharp lines.

I think the names of colors are at the edge, between where language fails and where it's at its most powerful.

It all comes," said Pooh crossly, "of not having front doors big enough.

there are some problems no Unix command can address.

The frontier has been rebuilt. It is now impassable. Our country is surrounded by barbed wire; we are completely cut off from the rest of the world

We live in a world that has walls and those walls need to be guarded by men with guns.

It's one thing to be asked to respect someone else's religion. It's another to be asked to respect their taboos.

New maps were made, complete maps, so that every inch was accounted for, and everyone now knew who they were, or at least who they belonged to. Those maps, how they transformed everything.

Privacy is precious. Respect it. Own it.

What can come? This was a brilliant question. Can is scarier than will. What will come limits itself. What can come has no boundaries.

Your job is to preserve yourself, not to descend into their hole. It's a relief when you arrive at this place, the point of absurdity, because then you are free, you owe them nothing.

looking at the poems of John Gray when I saw the tiniest rivulet of text meandering through the very largest meadow of margin, I suggested to Oscar Wilde that he should go a step further than these minor poets; he should publish a book all margin; full of beautiful, unwritten thoughts.

From an early age I didn't buy into the value systems of working hard in a nine-to-five job. I thought creativity, friendship and loyalty and pushing the boundaries of what was acceptable was much more interesting.

I don't think any relationship responds well to pressure.

We have limits. There is a finiteness to our time and energy. And to live as though there isn't is destructive as well as delusional. It can be hard to tell the truth about our human capacity and limits because few of us want to accept the losses that come with this truth. We can't say yes to everything. We can't go everywhere and see everyone. We can't have it all. We aren't indispensable. We are finite beings who need rest. And that is not a bad thing.

We too worried about being permissive. But gradually we began to realize that this approach was permissive only in the sense that all feelings were permitted.