Quotes About Boundaries

Being rule governed, I operate in a world filled with imaginary restraints.

I truly hate being a guest in someone's home...Worst of all, you have to 'make nice' at all hours. I don't want someone across the table from me while I'm eating my breakfast. I don't want to share the newspaper and I don't want to talk to anyone at the end of the day. If I were interested in that shit, I'd be married again by now and put a permanent end to all the peace and quiet.

It's not that gray water's boring, but the subject does have its limits.

Being rule-governed, I operate in a world filled with imaginary restraints. I'm happiest when signs are posted. No spitting, no public urination, no walking on the grass. I might not obey, but at least I knew where I stood.

i'm happiest when signs are posted--no spitting, no public urination, no walking on the grass. i might not obey but at least i know where i stood.

Whenever Jehovah's Witnesses appear at my door, I always ask for their addresses first thing, assuring them that I'll be around later in the week to plague them with my views. While

Here's a tip, Self. Do not argue with a lunatic. Arguing with a lunatic simply ensures that you'll climb into his craziness with him when what you want to do is take a big step back. He

En cuanto alguien sabe qué cosas te importan, también sabe cómo herirte.

Love, it seemed, was all about nonnegotiables.

Spouses depending on each other too much was what wrecked marriages!

It is not for people who are in abusive or violent relationships, nor for those with serious addictions or in long-term affairs; such activities undermine the ability to positively engage with partners.

I realize I'm trying to work out the boundaries. How to love her without interfering. How to step back and let her have her private world and yet still be an intimate part of it. When she talks about her feelings, I have to consciously tell myself she wants me to receive them, not fix them.

the night fell over me, and for a moment I lost my boundaries, feeling like the sky was my own skin

When I looked up through the web of trees, the night fell over me, and for a moment I lost my boundaries, feeling like the sky was my own skin and the moon was my heart beating up there in the dark.

fix it. But I know my impulse to tear open the closed, secret place in my daughter comes from a need to stave off my own fear. When is the impulse to help an adult child a wise intervention

When she talks about her feelings, I have to consciously tell myself she wants me to receive them, not fix them.

It was his way of telling me I could not have him and myself both.

The boundaries communities drew around themselves seemed to narrow their lives—whether it was women and men, Hindus and Muslims, or Parsis and everyone else.

You can only drive yourself crazy if you have no distance from the world

many daughters may never have given themselves permission to even 'consider' changing the relationship with their mothers, because they didn't think they had the right to do it.

We embrace the word no because it allows us to exercise some control over our lives, whereas yes is simply an acquiescence.

In fact, not only have a good many formerly abused children grown into nonabusing adults, but a number of these parents have great difficulty with even modest, nonphysical methods of disciplining their children. In rebellion against the pain of their own childhoods, these parents shy away both from setting limits and from enforcing them. This, too, can have a negative impact on a child's development, because children need the security of boundaries.

Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it's supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that's not what love is all about.

Manipulation paints people into a corner: to fight it, they have to hurt someone who's "just trying to be nice." For most people it seems easier to give in.