Quotes About Boundaries

I don't do friends.

I don't fall out with people easily but several female friends I have had to cut loose because they would press their unwanted sexual attentions on me when they were drunk, and, as I've said, I fancy women very rarely and when I do, they're in their 20s. It's so sucky being a feminist Hugh Hefner.

If people displease me too much, I just leave 'em to it. There's no point in trying to change people -- and there are a million people out there one could be equally good friends with. Generally I forgive very easily, and then one day I just switch off. It's best that way, or else you spend your life fretting.

If you begin to give away parts of yourself, eventually you'll give it all. And once you've lost yourself, haven't you lost everything?

Don't touch me," said the girl. "I want to be sick by myself." "That's impossible," said her mother. She continued to rub her back and the girl did not push her away

The newsletter's editor, Ted Cogswell, illustrated an issue with pictures of naked women—intended, he said, as a joke. Suzy Charnas informed him that this kind of "joke" was aggression disguised as humor.

There are times with your friends when you just have to put their whole mess out of your mind for a while.

Just because you're playing without the rules doesn't mean they don't exist. If I could have given you anything, I would have given you caution and common sense.

Just because you're playing without the rules doesn't mean they don't exist.

I love you because you are not mine, because you are from the other side, from there where you invite me to jump and I cannot make the jump, because in the deepest moment of possession you are not in me, I cannot reach you, I cannot get beyond your body...

We know that attention acts as a lightning rod. Merely by concentrating on something one causes endless analogies to collect around it, even penetrate the boundaries of the subject itself: an experience that we call coincidence, serendipity – the terminology is extensive. My experience has been that in these circular travels what is really significant surrounds a central absence, an absence that, paradoxically, is the text being written or to be written.

Viata, ca un comentariu despre ceva ce nu putem cuprinde si care se afla aici, la un pas de saltul pe care nu-l facem.

Un racconto è significativo quando spezza i propri confini con quell'esplosione di energia spirituale che illumina bruscamente qualcosa che va molto oltre il piccolo e talvolta miserabile aneddoto che narra.

I could no longer participate in an exchange requiring acrobatics of self-denial.

Figuring out what is your stuff and what is other people's stuff can be a lifelong journey.

You had an elaborate system that you thought would keep us out of bed: you sat on the other side of the room, you didn't let me crack your knuckles, you never stayed more than fifteen minutes. It never really worked, did it?

Don't bring up the Beyonder any more than necessary.

Inside the walls

There was such a thing as giving too much, after all

The worst thing about being famous is the invasion of your privacy.

Throughout history, wars were won and lost based on maps — who had the best maps, who had the inaccurate ones, who owned the boundary lines, who knew the terrain. And I knew the terrain of my family intimately, our private fears, our embarrassing weaknesses, our cached secrets.

Safe, I decided, didn't leave much room for fun.

Like world describers before me, those mapmakers in the seventeenth centure, I had laid down my first faintly drawn border. With that one tentative mark, my world expanded by a few freeing degrees.

Because there's nothing you can do about other people's reactions. You be yourself and let them be themselves and if you don't get what you want then tough and if you do then good for you and that's it. Everything else is manipulation and I spit on it. -Zal