Quotes About Boundaries

Each day the mythical return Enzian dreamed of seems less possible. Once it was necessary to know uniforms, insignia, airplane markings, to observe boundaries. But by now too many choices have been made. The single root lost, way back there in the May desolation. Each bird has his branch now, and each one is the Zone.

If he is going into management, he writes. If he is an engineer or architect why he paints or sculpts. He will straddle the line, aware up to the point of knowing he is getting the worst of both worlds, but never stopping to wonder why there should ever be a line, or even if there is a line at all.

Just don't tell me you're in love, OK? Sister, I ain't even in line.

The reason that taking care of others doesn't work is that no one knows what another person needs to feel nourished (unless they can tell us clearly and directly, and in dysfunctional families, they usually don't). We end up guessing: "Oh, I think this would help." "It seems to me that he needs that." But we can't guess what would truly nourish another person. He or she may not even know themselves.

Everyone in the family knows the "invisible" rules, and the behavior of all family members is based on them. But taking those unspoken rules into adulthood can create misunderstandings and misinterpretations when communicating with anyone who is not part of the family.

Remember that you can't fix other people's problems. Nothing you do will remove the misery they feel, if they don't want to let go of it. Being a scapegoat or whipping post for someone else's anger, frustration, grief, or misery is really only enabling them to stay in the same old patterns. There's absolutely nothing wrong with removing yourself from a difficult situation and getting on with your life. I wish you peace and healing.

Before I built a wall I'd ask to know What I was walling in or walling out. ROBERT FROST

chronically overgiving as a way to try to prove her value.

If you are operating under the illusion that you can continue to hold on to people who you know are not good for you, and still create an extraordinary life filled with love and fulfillment, then you are fooling yourself. Toxic ties cost us and they cost us big time. If you are feeling stuck in your life, look to see who or what it is that you are stuck to.

If you don't like being a doormat, then get off the floor. AL-ANON

Anger begs us to make a powerful commitment to what we will or will not tolerate in our lives any longer, making it our best friend if we can turn it in the right direction.

But we want a record of us where there is 'nothing' as if by holding each other's waists, we could find the border and lose it.

You cannot save another person from his or her spiritual lessons, no matter how much you may want to or how hard you try.

Better to go alone than to be badly accompanied. - Madame Dariaux

The world had edges but you couldn't see them going, only when you were trying to come back.

Were we sexually intimate? What difference could it possibly make to you?

In fact, the only people he let anywhere near him were his family and her. She wasn't quite certain she wanted to dissect the implications of that honor.

All I'm saying is, kindness don't have no boundaries.

Death is another bar which lies several steps below the normal world. I'm at its threshold, but not yet in it. Its doorway is doorless.

Don't ever wrestle with a pig. You'll both get dirty, but the pig will enjoy it. - Cale Yarborough

living with a teenage daughter is like living with the Taliban a mum is not allowed to laugh, sing, dance or wear short skirts

We've all heard of personal space, that blanket of nothing we need between ourselves and others. For me, the zone is eighteen inches. Break in, I get edgy.

Tutti sappiamo cos'è lo spazio personale, quel niente di cui abbiamo bisogno tra noi stessi e gli altri. Per me il limite è a quarantacinque centimetri. Superatelo e divento nervosa.

didn't want you to think that I looked at you as nothing more than an orgasm machine.