Quotes About Boundaries

Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.

Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.

If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?

We can't be afraid to dismiss the unappreciative.

Categorizing is necessary for humans, but it becomes pathological when the category is seen as definitive, preventing people from considering the fuzziness of boundaries

Silver Rule (negative golden rule): Do not do to others what you would not like them to do to you. Note the difference from the Golden Rule, as the silver one prevents busybodies from attempting to run your life.

Categorizing is necessary for humans, but it becomes pathological when the category is seen as definitive, preventing people from considering the fuzziness of boundaries, let alone revising their categories.

You cannot do anything with knowledge unless you know where it stops, and the costs of using it.

The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything," he said.

that really successful people say no to almost everything

Se você não gostar de uma pessoa, deixe-a em paz ou a exclua da sua vida; não a ataque verbalmente.

and the two need to be kept separate.

Stay robust to how others treat you.

As club members know, the very purpose of a club is exclusion and size limitation.

You know instinctively that people get along better as neighbors than roommates.

Some professions, such as dentists, consultants, or massage professionals, cannot be scaled: there is a cap on the number of patients or clients you can see in a given period of time.

so users were severely constrained by time.

If my mother were a bumper sticker, she would read THAT'S NOT APPROPRIATE. Taylor's mom would read WHY THE F*** NOT?

While healthy self-assertiveness requires the ability to say no, it is ultimately tested not by what we are against but by what we are for.

The protection of self-esteem requires a clear understanding of the limits of personal responsibility.

Children need limits and feel anxious in their absence. This is one of the reasons they test limits—to be certain they are there. They need to know that someone is flying the plane.

Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy.

There are many things in this world that a child must not ask about.

Her beauty was not like that of a bonsai, which achieves its charm by asserting its own will in defiance of the careful bindings that lash and restrict it. How, I wondered, would my grandfather describe Mitsuru's beauty?