Quotes About Boundaries

Sometimes if you let people do things to you, you're really doing it to them.

A soul that is unbound is as mad as one with cemented borders.

To grow in love-ability is to accept the boundaries of oneself and others, while remaining vulnerable, woundable, around the bounds. Acknowledgement of conditionality is the only unconditionality of human love.

He is that sort of person—the kind who appears to have no boundaries at first, who you have to get to know incredibly well to understand that his guileless openness is in part a defense to protect the deeper, more closely guarded things about which he is almost pathologically private.

Honoring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.

Not only is it not our business to change others, but it's also harmful to relationships to try to do so. Ideas are just not worth the price paid in love lost. Love is more important than any conditioned idea or belief, but if you take your conditioning more seriously than love, you will lose love. The other person will withhold love from you because it will be too painful for him or her to love you.

It doesn't take the partner's words and actions personally.

Don't say yes out of obligation. When you don't feel an inner yes, say no to others' requests for your help. Reserve some of your time and energy for things you love to do.

Once trust was lost it was impossible to salvage a relationship, she told me. She was right. I think that relationships only rarely survive once the inner sanctum has been violated. What forges a couple is the shared responsibility to defend that space.

Per ogni uomo c'è un'area della vita compresa nel perimetro sacrosanto dei cazzi suoi.

A man was the sum of his limits; freedom only made him see how much so.

Mrs. Bradley herself kept out of the invalid's way for almost the whole of the fortnight. This was partly for the invalid's sake, but largely for her own.

The problem with any unwritten law is that you don't know where to go to erase it.

It's why we close the eyes, too. The dead shouldn't have to look on the lewd aliveness of the living.

Plus I think it would be good for men to know they have limits.

If you don't draw a line in the sand, you will just keep drifting. You have to know what you're willing to do and not willing to do right now.

people radically change their behavior when they know they are being watched. They will strive to do that which is expected of them. They want to avoid shame and condemnation. They do so by adhering tightly to accepted social practices, by staying within imposed boundaries, avoiding action that might be seen as deviant or abnormal.

Since such assumptions are limited only by one's imagination and are encouraged daily by revelations of government and institutional invasion of privacy," they wrote, "the boundaries between paranoid delusions and justified cautions indeed become tenuous.

there are all sorts of things people do that they are eager to keep private, even though these sorts of things do not constitute doing "something wrong." Privacy is indispensable to a wide range of human activities.

You can lose a lot when you travel too much.

The authority of any governing institution must stop at its citizen's skin.

Unlike the Jester and the Clown, who are at the bottom of a hierarchical pile and survive only by making the king laugh, the Trickster is free, a paradox, a breaker of boundaries who makes us laugh—and laughter lets the sacred in. In Native spiritualities, there is often a belief that we cannot pray unless we've laughed.

Filters let in a cup of water," he says, "but keep out the ocean.

if girls were raised a little more like boys—if they had more right to say no, to declare boundaries, to develop a strong personal identity, to be angry, to rebel—they would be less likely to be revictimized as adults.