Quotes About Boundaries

Discontinue deciding what anyone else should or shouldn't be doing.

Here is the guts of both self-and other-directed love. Never confuse your self-worth (which is a given) with your behavior, or the behavior of others toward you.

You must learn to cultivate your own garden and keep your nose out of everybody else's. If they want to grow rutabagas in it, if they want to use a different kind of fertilizer than you do, if they want to have weeds in it, that's really none of your business. The important thing is that yours is the way you want it to be.

some kind of kindness. If that doesn't work, I immediately go to another employee or to a supervisor, or I leave the situation altogether. I will not stand there and be physically, mentally, intellectually, or spiritually abused by anyone, ever, because I know that in allowing this to happen, I have given that person permission to treat me that way.

amazing: Most of the time, kindness and love really work to get other people to understand that they can't treat you with disrespect. But if it doesn't, then you have to go to plan B and plan C and even plan D—it all comes from this internal belief in who you are as a human being.

Setting boundaries helps you reverse all that so you can stand up for yourself no matter what, be it to the people who love you the most or the ones who don't even know you.

I love who I am and what I have attracted to myself up until now. I do not need another thing or even one tiny change in order to be happy or complete. I know in my heart that I am not going to get it all, but that I truly am it all already. The universe is endless, I am the universe, and therefore I am without boundaries.

Begin to view your emotional life as independent of whatever anyone else does. This will free you from the chains of being hurt when others behave differently from the way you want them to.

As long as you feel that you have to do anything because it is expected of you in a particular relationship, and your doing it creates any resentment or your not doing it any guilt, you can count yourself as having work to do in this erroneous zone.

Recognize your desire for privacy and not having to share everything you feel and experience with someone. You are unique and private. If you feel you must share everything then you are without choice, and of course, a dependent.

Know when reason sets limits to avoid peril.

know when to stop. Know when reason sets limits to avoid peril.

give without expecting, and don't be victimized by the expectations of others.

I hate t see you swim out so far you can't swim back.

I hate to see you swim out so far you can't swim back.

Learn to say no. It will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin.

Science has everything to say about what is possible. Science has nothing to say about what is permissible.

By choosing recovery and risking to be real, we set the healthy boundaries that say, "I am in charge of my recovery and my life, and no one else on this Earth is.

Because they have not healed their Child Within, they are generally unable to be a part of the safe and supportive healing of another. However, we can learn to set limits with these people, so that they do not continue to mistreat us. We set limits both with firmness and with love. We do so not with aggressiveness, but with assertiveness.

Submitting to others, rather than affirming our own reality, is the heart of active co-dependence—we give up our own inner world in order to be accepted by others.

Tim is learning about his high tolerance of others' inappropriate behavior and is beginning to get free of this often subtle form of mistreatment.

The trouble with America is that there are far too many wide-open spaces surrounded by teeth.

I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I let them try to understand me!

The United States is an easy country to love because you can take it on faith that, at some point in every waking hour of the day, there is among your fellow citizens a vast exaltation of opinions that test the outer boundaries of the Crazoid.