Quotes About Boundaries

Shame tells us of our limits. Shame keeps us in our human boundaries, letting us know we can and will make mistakes and that we need help. Our shame tells us we are not God. Healthy shame is the psychological foundation of humility. It is the source of spirituality.

When we are exposed without any way to protect ourselves, we feel the pain of shame. If we are continually overexposed, shame becomes toxic.

Toxic shame results from the unexpected exposure of vulnerable aspects of a child's self. This exposure takes place before the child has any ego boundaries to protect herself. Early shaming events happen in a context where the child has no ability to choose. The felt experience of shame is being exposed and seen when one is not ready to be seen.

This means that shame monitors excitement and pleasure. Nature has made the sexual experience the most exciting and pleasurable of all our experiences. Nature wants us to mate and procreate. Sex and shame go hand in hand because we need our sense of shame as a boundary for our sexual desires.

Members of dysfunctional families give up their ego boundaries as a way to maintain the family system. Giving up ego boundaries is equivalent to giving up your identity.

A covert kind of sexual abuse occurs when Dad or Mom talk about sex in front of the children when the age level of the children is inappropriate.

There is an anonymous saying, "Of all the masks of freedom, discipline (limits) is the hardest to understand." We cannot be truly free without having limits.

Having damaged boundaries is like living in a house without locks on the doors.

it is difficult to discern where "you" end and the remainder of the world begins.

Everyone needs to make his own choices. You need to mind your own business and not meddle in ours. So

The Situation Principle: Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.

A blind man's world is bounded by the limits of his touch; an ignorant man's world by the limits of his knowledge; a great man's world by the limits of his vision.

A person without discipline is in a prison without bars.

Qué lo agota? ¿Lo sabe? ¿Ha prestado atención a lo que le succiona la vida? ¿Evita esas cosas? Es importante reconocer lo que agota su energía y tomar acciones para defenderse de ello.

I cannot any longer endure being served breakfast in bed by a hairy man in his underwear.

I could see (though not as clearly as I do now) that one of my biggest problems was me. Because I wanted everyone to like me and to approve of me, I tried to be nice to everyone all the time and this proved a remarkably efficient way of losing control over my life.

Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, they just don't have the capacity to love you back.

Perhaps, the problem is not the intensity of your love, but the quality of the people you are loving.

We cannot beg someone to stay if they want to leave. We have to admit that LOVE doesn't give us the license to own a person.

Some people belong in your heart, but aren't mean't to remain apart of your life. Love them from a distance, but love yourself enough to not allow that person to continue causing you hurt, pain, & heartache.

If you're not working on trying to be mine then you shouldn't be worried about who consumes my time.

There's nothing wrong with showing you care for someone. What's wrong is expecting them to do the same.

Being with someone that doesn't treat you right isn't love, it's stupidity.

Dating a girl with a guy best friend is never easy.