Quotes About Boundaries

If you are attracted to someone who has narcissistic tendencies, but are unable to put their narcissism and lack of empathy into a healthy perspective, then this person is isn't for you - not matter how much you love their essence.

The best contraceptive is the word "no" repeated frequently.

The best contraceptive is the word no — repeated frequently.

while the home must always be the centre of one's life, it should not be the boundary of one's ambitions'.

From the time I arrived on the Cape, one of the things I chose explicitly was to put my writing first. Everything else in my life waxed and waned, but writing, I discovered during my restructuring, was my real core. Not any relationship. Not any love. Not any person. I had become more selfish and less accessible. I ceased to be the universal mommy of the tribe. I wanted to see people when I was done with my writing for the day, and not in the middle of my work time.

Once sex rears its ugly 'ead it's time to steer clear.

you can molest someone without touching them, without even saying anything. Just the inappropriate desire can be harmful.

It is, in other words, in part through painful processes of loss and separation that we arrive at a sense of who we are. Such processes function as "boundary-creating" experiences that build singular and (more or less) self-sufficient psyches.

As Luce Iri- garay explains, "What makes me one, and perhaps even unique, is the fact that you are and I am not you.

You should never stay in a relationship for good closet space.

Though he had determined upon this in the first moment of joyful enthusiasm, yet the delay of four-and-twenty hours had made a material change in his feelings; his most virtuous resolves were always rather the effect of sudden impulse than of steady principle. But when the tide of passion had swept away the landmarks, he had no method of ascertaining the boundaries of right and wrong.

You can require respect, ask for tolerance but you cannot demand validation

Down the hall is Ms Englander's classroom. She teachers World Civilization. Her walls are covered with images from the Bible, Greek Mythology, and fairy tales. Passing by, I see Eve at the tree, Pandora, Bluebeard's wife. All those women in stories opening boxes they're not supposed to, peeking through doors to see what they shouldn't, eating forbidden fruit. They do it because they want to know what's really going on. They want to feel alive. Why are they always told no?

There was something aggressive in her that always went too far. She had thrown a marcasite egg at her lover's window once, a green egg she particularly valued. She had stayed in this house too long. She had fucked the Director. She had let her breasts hang out before Homer. She had gone too far. No doubt if she had children she would neglect them.

You can love a person for walking the same roads as you every dusk or dawn. You can love a person a lot by teaching him to love people, thus himself. You can love someone like no one has ever loved or will ever love them, but you can't ask anyone to love you.

Never apologize, never explain - didn't we always say that? Well, I haven't and I don't.

Really, you don't have to—

Like physicians we have a duty to 'do no harm' (..). I argue that we can only do this through recognition of our own weaknesses and a willingness to understand how we might be tempted into positions of false omnipotence, moral superiority and boundary violations. (..) Like Guggenbuhl-Craig, I believe there is a 'bogeyman' within every therapist, longing for control (1971, p. 55).

She deleted the messages he continued to leave on her phone and set her ringer to identify his calls - what she should have done a week ago. The minute Loser by Beck played, she'd know it was him.

I have limits. Perhaps I can stretch them. But respecting them, I have learned, is generally wiser than pretending they're not there. Because I don't have all the time in the world, I have this whole hour, this day. The duration of one cup of coffee. The time it takes to listen to one more winding sentence or to stay with a child on her slow way to sleep.

You are almost not free, if you are teaching a group of graduate students, to become friends with one of them. I don't mean anything erotically charged, just a friendship.

To look beyond our horizons is to acknowledge that we've hemmed ourselves in by creating them in the first place.

Fear is the limit of existence.

Uh, my lord, I am not actually food. You do realize this, yes?