Quotes About Individuality

Take me or leave me; or, as is the usual order of things, both.

Now I know the things I know, and I do the things I do; and if you do not like me so, to hell, my love, with you!

We think that relationship structures should be designed to fit the people in them rather than people chosen to fit some abstract ideal of the perfect relationship. There's no right or wrong way to do this as long as everyone's having fun and getting their needs met.

It is basic to any relationship, and particularly important in open relationships, that no one can own another person.

When you find yourself worrying about how you are seen by others, remember that there is no point in pretending you are anyone except who you are. It does you no good to attract someone who thinks you are somebody else: all you get is someone who is excited about somebody who isn't you. When you are honest, you attract the people who are interested in you, just as you most wonderfully are.

When you are single, you have unique opportunities to deepen that relationship with yourself, to find out who you are, and to celebrate your journey in whatever relationships you may move through as you travel through your life.

Being single offers the opportunity to spend time being purely who you are. Singles enjoy more freedom to explore, fewer obligations, and the ability to lounge around the house in a holey T-shirt, playing video games, with nobody the wiser.

For us, when our sexual lifestyle is essential to our sense of identity, anybody who doesn't know about our kink doesn't really know us.

We believe that the fundamental sexual unit is one person; adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun, and companionable but does not complete anybody.

When we see someone who intrigues us, we like to feel free to respond, and, as we explore our response, to discover whatever is special about this new, fascinating person. We like relating to different kinds of people and reveling in how our differences expand our horizons and offer us new ways to be ourselves.

We each have the responsibility of living our own lives, determining our individual needs, and arranging to get those needs met. We cannot live through a partner, nor can we assume that just because we have a lover, all our needs should automatically be satisfied.

You get to have beliefs of your own. What matters is not that you agree with us but that you question the prevailing paradigm and decide for yourself what you believe.

If you don't want to play tennis with me, I'll ask somebody else, and if you don't want to play bondage games with me, somebody else will—our relationship will not be less for it. What we share is valuable for what we share. Period.

When we begin to question all the ways we have been told we ought to be, we can begin to edit and rewrite our old tapes. By breaking the rules, we both free and empower ourselves.

We are paving new roads across new territory. We have no culturally approved scripts for open sexual lifestyles; we need to write our own. To write your own script requires a lot of effort, and a lot of honesty, and is the kind of hard work that brings many rewards. You may find the right way for you and three years from now decide you want to live a different way—and that's fine. You write the script, you get to make the choices, and you get to change your mind, too.

GREAT SLUTS are made, not born.

Nymphomaniac: a woamn that has more sex than you.

A great many people do believe that to be single is to be somehow incomplete and that they need to find the other half. [...] We believe, on the other hand, that the fundamental sexual unit is one person. Adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun and companionable, but does not complete anybody.

If human beings had genuine courage, they'd wear their costumes every day of the year, not just on Halloween.

Everybody has basically the same family, it's just reconfigured slightly differently from one to the next.

You pretend to be more eccentric than you actually are because you fear you are an interchangeable cog.

You don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note.

Every bit of software wants you to be "social." What ever happened to being grumpy and alone in your writer's fugue?

Truth is not determined by majority vote.