Quotes About Manipulation

Aunque a ratos de olvides de mi, ingrato elctor, yo sigo manejando los hilos. Estoy al acecho detrás de las palabras y guío tus pasos -y también tus emociones- a través de esta historia. Pero sigo aquí y cuando me convenga apareceré, sin que tú puedas evitarlo.

Declining to hear "no" is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it. With strangers, even those with the best intentions, never, ever relent on the issue of "no," because it sets the stage for more efforts to control. If you let someone talk you out of the word "no," you might as well wear a sign that reads, "You are in charge.

Does he do all this with evil design? No, it is part of his concept of how to retain love.

Forced teaming is an effective way to establish premature trust because a we're-in-the-same-boat attitude is hard to rebuff without feeling rude.

David Mamet's film House of Games is a wonderful exploration of cons and con artists that shows forced teaming at work.

The next signal I explain to Kelly is one I call loan-sharking: "He wanted to be allowed to help you because that would place you in his debt, and the fact that you owe a person something makes it hard to ask him to leave you alone.

Counter-threats engage the threatener and put you on his playing field. You want exactly the opposite, which is to disengage and to play by your rules.

Ask yourself, "Why does this person need to convince me?" The answer turns out is not about him, it's about you. The reason someone promises something, the reason he needs to convince you is that he can see that you're not convinced, you have doubt, which is a messenger of intuition, likely because there is reason to doubt.

Most human predators, however, seek power, not food. To destroy or damage something is to take its power.

Don't think of persuasion as something someone does to us; persuasion is an internal process, not an external one. We persuade ourselves. A predator merely manipulates how things seem to us.

Forced teaming is an effective way to establish premature trust because a we're-in-the-same-boat attitude is hard to rebuff without feeling rude. Sharing a predicament, like being stuck in a stalled elevator or arriving simultaneously at a just-closed store will understandably move people around social boundaries. But forced teaming is not about coincidence; it is intentional and directed, and it is one of the most sophisticated manipulations.

When you try to manage or reason with such a person, you find that he is not reacting to what you say but rather to what he expects you to say; he is reacting to his script.

The Unsolicited Promise When the man volunteered, "I promise we'll look after him," he gave one of the most reliable signals of trouble. Promises are used to convince us of an intention, but they are not guarantees. A guarantee offers some compensation if the speaker fails to deliver, but promises offer no such collateral. They are the very hollowest instruments of speech, showing nothing more than the speaker's desire to convince you of something.

Generally speaking, rapport-building has a far better reputation than it deserves. It is perceived as admirable when in fact it is almost always done for self-serving reasons.

Charm is almost always a directed instrument, which, like rapport-building, has motive.

No" is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you.

In the immortal words of Mr. Burns.......eeeeexcellent.

Oh, boy. Why did I have a feeling I'd just aligned myself with Tweedle Diva and Tweedle Devious?

I plan to let Lysander rip the garment off me, make love to me in the dirtiest way possible, and then, while he's trying to catch his breath, drop the big, bad bombshell on him and run like hell. Bianka to Kaia

Pickup line... pickup line... she racked her brain until she found an explanation and brightened. "Mine would be—roses are red, violets are blue, if you don't do what I say I will kill you.

But his plans didn't matter, she supposed, since he would soon be at her mercy. Not that she had any." - Bianka

That didn't change her plans, however. She would seduce him - and then she would slice his heart in two. A symbolic gesture, really. An inside joke between them. Well, for herself. He might not get". - Bianka of Lasyter

Tu boca es una boca de doscientos-dólares-la-hora, no una boca de cuéntame-todos-tus-secretos-o-te-mataré.-Lucius a Eden

The Church does not depend on power, social prestige, rhetorical manipulation, or human-designed programs. All it has are the Word and Sacraments, which, though they seem weak to the world and to all theologies of glory, in fact carry the life-changing power of the Holy Spirit.