Quotes About Fixation

When we forgive someone, we don't pretend that the harm didn't happen or cause us pain. We see it clearly for what it was, but we also come to see that fixating on the memory of harm generates anger and sadness.

The big problem with power, of course, is obsession. Once you get some of it and feel it, it dominates your whole life and it's all you can think about. That doesn't have to happen.

You've got to get obsessed and stay obsessed.

Nothing fixes a thing so intensely in the memory as the wish to forget it. —Michel de Montaigne John Ling. Fallen Angel (Kindle Locations 31-32). Kia Kaha Press.

he could not give her any attention. She complained, he heard her complaining, but he could do nothing about it. He was single-minded, he always had been

was so attached to the problem that I wasn't giving any energy or attention to the solution.

There is something wrong with a person who loves ballpoint pens. I believe nothing so deeply as this.

All right, you caught me. I'm secretly obsessed with you and spend all my free time writing about you in my journal. 'Dear Diary, today Will was an ass for the 467th day in a row. He's so dreamy

'Obsession' has a bad rap.

I know what it feels like to be a gun lover.

Even the most fickle are faithful to a few bad habits.

People who are in love lose interest in other pursuits. That is why we call it obsession.

There's no harm in reviewing the past from time to time; knowing where you've been is part of knowing where you are, and all that happy horse shit. But the American media have an absolute fixation on this. They rob us of the present by insisting on the past. If they were able, I'm sure they would pay equal attention to the future. Trouble is, they don't have any film on it.

There's a fascinating school of thought that some women are relationship addicts. You get really strung out on a guy who's not returning your enthusiasm and tell yourself you're going to fix him and make him better, and of course it's impossible.

It's that stubborn fixation on details that has invariably prevented me from getting excited about celebrating each passing year. Which is why my friends know that doing things such as throwing me surprise parties would only serve to surprise me with an overwhelming sense of panic and anxiety.

Reflect carefully on this, for it is so important that I can hardly lay too much stress on it. Fix your eyes on the Crucified and nothing else will be of much importance to you.

I wish there were some cure, like the lover's leap, for all heads of which some single idea has obtained an unreasonable and irregular possession

When you are insane, you are busy being insane-all the time ... when I was crazy, that was all I was.

Writers seldom just stop writing. We're like serial killers in that way. You have to stop us, because we cannot stop ourselves.

excessive interest in pathological behavior was itself pathological.

A man like me cannot live without a hobby-horse, a consuming passion — in Schiller's words a tyrant. I have found my tyrant, and in his service I know no limits. My tyrant is psychology. it has always been my distant, beckoning goal and now since I have hit upon the neuroses, it has come so much the nearer.

The stronger the constitutional factor, the more readily will a trauma lead to a fixation and leave behind a developmental disturbance; the stronger the trauma, the more certainly will its injurious effects become manifest even when the instinctual situation is normal.

But a person can believe something so hard they lose sight of everything else.

He that cannot cast off a possession has become the possessed