Quotes About Attachment

Arjuna, you have control over your action alone, not the fruits of your action. So do not be drawn to expectation, or inaction.

It is not about being a hermit in the forest. It is about overpowering lust and attachment wherever you are.

Arjuna, that which is born will die and that which will die will be born. So it is pointless to cling and mourn. —Bhagavad Gita: Chapter 2, Verse 27 (paraphrased).

When we stop loving, we embrace adharma.

If I am what I own, then I cling to what I have to secure my value in the world. And when you try to take it from me, I feel violated, for my identity is attached to my property.

we cling to 'me' and 'mine' and are wary of what is 'not mine'. We call this love, but it is in fact attachment as they give us identity and meaning.

The gap between 'what is mine' and 'what is not mine' is an artificial construct, not a natural phenomenon that is created and can be destroyed by the human mind. The

Ram is renowned as maryada purushottam, one who always follows the rules. That he breaks the bow he is meant to bend and string is not insignificant. It indicates a wavering of the mind, or perhaps a momentary loss of balance. That he breaks the bow of Shiva, who is associated with detachment, perhaps indicates a moment of attachment to Sita. This makes exile a necessity, for in the forest the prince shall learn about detachment before he is ready to be king.

From desire come all problems. And all desires come from fear.

There are times when one cannot accept facts for fear of shattering one's being. As I listened to Ian's news, all of Digit's life, since my first meeting with him as a playful little ball of black fluff ten years earlier, passed through my mind. From that moment on, I came to live within an insulated part of myself.

He believes that this man has looped a bit of the thread-leash through a corner of his soul.

That attachment status shifts in the course of intensive psychodynamic therapy has been affirmed in a number of studies on change in attachment classification from insecure to secure, and from disorganized to organized after 1 year of psychodynamic treatment, including TFP

Patients with combined NPD/BPD were significantly more likely to be classified as dismissing (characterized by idealization/devaluation of others and dismissal of need for closeness) or cannot classify (e.g., characterized by oscillation between angry preoccupation or passive enmeshment with attachment figures and dismissing devaluation of them) than was the BPD group.

In sum, our findings suggest that narcissistic pathology in the context of BPD may be a protective factor that helps narcissistic patients to stay in treatment, limit self-destructiveness, and contain disorganization in the face of early traumatic attachment experiences

The need of those with narcissistic pathology to cling to ideal images of self and others means they do not have access to the dependent aspects of self, and cannot tolerate dependency in others, which is seen as a sign of weakness.

Home was homeless. It could exist anywhere, because its only substance was familiarity.

You would say that, Malakai. You've loved one all your life.

For four years she'd subsisted on memories of this—his voice, his face, the sound of his breath and his heartbeat. She felt him like a leaf feels the sun, like a magnet feels metal.

It's the underlying inequality. Someone is always the one who loves more, and it eventually drives the other—the less loving one—away. Just the pressure of it.

To love someone enough to let them go, you had to let them go forever or you did not love them that much.

Well, like Gaston says, it's hard to control who you fall in love with," he said. "You love somebody that deeply, you're willing to risk everything to be with them.

there. She'd learned not to grow attached to anyone, too fond of anyone, so there could be no surprises and no hurt.

was dependent on Sheila

for no matter whether the relationship was of short or long duration, no matter whether the partners were rich or poor, gay or straight, young or old, living together or married, giving up the relationship was hard for both people.