Quotes About Attachment

I sometimes think the stronger you feel about someone, the harder it is to picture their face when you are away from them.

Those were the people who made her something, and without them she was different. She'd held on to them and to that old self tenaciously, though. She clung to it, celebrated it, worshipped it even, instead of constructing a new grown-up life for herself. For years she'd been eating the cold crumbs left over from a great feast, living on them as though they could last her forever.

Alice suspected Paul couldn't really picture his father, just like she couldn't picture Paul when he was away. Maybe that was the case with people you wanted more than was good for you.

I feel like I should love them right away. But how do you do that? You can't make yourself love someone, can you?

I still think about him sometimes. I dream about him too. I try to remember what he looked like. It's hard to remember, though, either because of time or because of strong feelings. I sometimes think the stronger you feel about someone the harder it is to picture their face when you are away from them.

Carmen: "I want you to leave me alone, but not ignore me. I want you to miss me when I go away to college, but not be sad. I want you to stay exactly the same, but not be lonely or alone. I want to do the leaving, and not have you ever leave me.

Tibby, you are crazy, Carmen said. Those pants are in love with you. They want you for your body and your mind. She couldn't help seeing the pants in a completely new way.

Because they forgot and I remembered. They would be lost soon enough, and I would keep going. The best I could do was hold on to them after they forgot themselves.

His power over her was limited, because she didn't love him.

Why couldn't it belong to him anymore? Why couldn't he belong to it? Because he gave it up. He held on to himself, and he threw the other things away.

There are some people who fall in love over and over." Tibby nodded, understanding the particular melancholy as it revealed itself on Lena's face. "And there are others who can only seem to do it once.

teenagers and toddlers were very much the same. They both liked to leave their mother, so long as their mother did not move.

Desire was just the dumbest thing. You wanted what you wanted until it was yours. Then you didn't want it anymore. You took what you had for granted until it was no longer yours. This, it seemed to her, was one of the crueller paradoxes of human nature.

I guess I was better at loving then, too, and also better at being loved. The two go together.

How staunchly people rationalized the things they had, even (especially) if they didn't choose them.

Was it only possible truly to enjoy something if you knew there was a danger that it might be taken away?

Mary watched her fondly. 'My Clive

I was allowed to hold her just once. They didn't want you to bond at all with the baby. Some women chose not to see their babies. I just could never imagine that. I wanted to see that face. I'll never forget it as long as I live. You never forget that face. —

Until I feared I would lose it, I never loved to read. One does not love breathing." —To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

I think beaches kind of get in your blood, and if you grow up near one you never feel quite right when you're away from it.

But I don't belong to any one, therefore attachment to anything means betrayal, self-banishment, renounce self-continuity, self-transcendence; the ego only there to give significance

You don't have to love somebody to miss them. You get used to having them around, like a cat or a bird.

Despite our attachment to the notion of free will, most of us know that disorders of the brain can trump the best intentions of the mind.

why it is worse to lose something than not to gain it.