Quotes About Attachment

I like other people's things better. They come with other people's history.

I jammed a floppy blue teddy bear under my head, then felt guilty and returned him to the foot of the bed. One should have allegiance to one's childhood things.

I'll hold myself to him like a climbing, coiling vine until I have invaded every part of him and made him mine.

He has claimed me, placed a flag in me: I was here first, she's mine, mine.

I just wish he thought about me as much as I do him.

It was true, Ben at age two was an astonishing thing. He'd demand love outright, grab at a breast or an arm, but as soon as he had enough affection, and that came quickly, he'd go completely limp, play dead until you let him go.

In the middle of the night, I'll turn to face him and press myself against him. I'll hold myself to him like a climbing, coiling vine until I have invaded every part of him and made him mine.

estaba tan acostumbrado a estar enfadado con ella que casi me parecía algo disfrutable, como mordisquear un padrastro: sabes que deberías parar, que tan poco es tan agradable como te parece, pero no puedes dejar de hacerlo.

I never knew I was capable of being ridiculous over a man.

The extraordinary thing about inventing a persona is that one is loathe to give it up, especially if the fiction sits comfortably.

Speer's moral corruption had its seed in his emotional attachment to Hitler–he likened it to Faust's fatal bargain with Mephistopheles. Achievement and success rooting it ever deeper over the years, he lived–almost addictively–in an increasingly vicious cycle of need and dependence.

No soldier likes the thought of losing his best friend and favorite toy.

I lost that feeling of belonging to something wonderful.

As children grow, they have an increasing need to orient: to have a sense of who they are, of what is real, why things happen, what is good, what things mean. To fail to orient is to suffer disorientation, to be lost psychologically—a state our brains are programmed to do almost anything to avoid. Children are utterly incapable of orienting by themselves. They need help. Attachment provides that help. The first business

Peer relationships are safest when they are the natural offspring of attachments with the parents.

Our society is so topsy-turvy that we may actually come to value the child's willingness to separate more than her instincts for closeness. Unfortunately, we cannot have it both ways. Parents whose young children are not properly attached face a nightmare scenario just keeping the child in sight. We should be thankful for the assistance attachment provides

The time we as parents and educators spend trying to teach our children social tolerance, acceptance, and etiquette would be much better invested in cultivating a connection with them. Children nurtured in traditional hierarchies of attachment are not nearly as susceptible to the spontaneous forces of tribalization. The social values we wish to inculcate can be transmitted only across existing lines of attachment.

those who can't. Attachment and vulnerability—these two great themes of human existence—go hand in hand.

We only feel like being good for those to whom we are attached to. We weren't meant to raise and teach children whose hearts we did not have. We have resorted to all kinds of tricks with our children because we don't have enough natural attachment power to do our job. When we use these tricks, we insult the relationship.

No one can ever love us quite so much as we love ourselves.

Love is not my bag.

Love it or loathe it, you can never leave it or lose it.

You only lose what you cling to.

love had turned into love affair with a begining and an end.