Quotes About Attachment

Most people with codependency issues feel genuinely unlovable. They attach themselves to people by caretaking, hoping to become indispensable instead. "I'd

It (detachment) is not detaching from the person whom we care about, but from the agony of involvement.

Worrying and obsessing keep us so tangled in our heads we can't solve our problems. Whenever we become attached in these ways to someone or something, we become detached from ourselves.

It wasn't a love story. -Tar's dad It was a love story. Me, Gemma, and junk. -Tar

Remember this always: to have something, sometimes you must be willing to lose it. Love must live free, jel'enedra. Love must ever live free.

Parents always know what strings control your heart and soul. After all, they are the ones who tied them there.

the baby synchronized her heart rate to that of the mother or father when they approached, but she did not synchronize her heart rate to the stranger's.98 These data suggest that babies and their caretakers are entwined in a homeostatic relationship, with the baby clicking in with the parents to achieve some sort of balance.

One of the first things we have to let go of is not being able to let go of anybody.

She was not in love with Rantel: she was in love with what he meant to her as someone she could love.

But it taught me another big lesson: Don't leave your children if they don't want you to. Life, and their childhood, is so short and fragile.

i do so hate finishing books. i would like to go on with them for years.

We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts. Lovelessness torments.

Both men and women remain in dysfunctional, loveless relationships when it is materially opportune.

To me the family has always been that place of familiarity that holds and hurts us.

I was still mourning- clinging to the broken heart of girlhood, to broken connections. When that mourning ceased I was able to love again.

Most of us learn early on to think of love as a feeling. When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect with them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them.

In a world without love the passion to connect can be replaced by the passion to possess.

individuals feeling connected to someone through the process of cathecting insist that they love the other person even if they are hurting or neglecting them. Since their feeling is that of cathexis, they insist that what they feel is love.

To be here now does not mean that we do not make plans but that we learn to give the making of future plans only a small amount of energy. And once future plans are made, we release our attachment to them.

We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts

when you say I would die for you to those you love, the truth of those words may be not that you give your physical life but that you are willing to die to the past and be born again in the present where you can live fully and freely - where you can give us the love we need.

When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect with them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them. That process of investment wherein a loved one becomes important to us is called cathexis. In his book Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us confuse cathecting with loving.

This faulty thinking often shapes our adult perceptions of love. So that just as we would cling to the notion that those who hurt us as children loved us, we try to rationalize being hurt by other adults by insisting that they love us.

In the Mars-and-Venus gendered universe, men want power and women want emotional attachment and connection. On this planet nobody really has the opportunity to know love since it is power and not love that is the order of the day.