Quotes About Attachment

Zane liked his love life simple: catch and release, and then move on. The problem was, Missy wasn't anything like his usual prey.

I'm frightened," she said shakily. "I am frightened beside you," he murmured. "You? But why are you--" "Because you are sunshine. Because you make a glad song inside me. I have great fear that you will go away from me.

He wasn't sure when it had happened or how, but the small woman beside him was no longer his captive; he had become hers.

You have stolen my heart.

Maybe the only reason I like him is because I had a crush on him for so long it became a part of me.

I don't know what she's going to do when I leave to go home, actually. She's gotten really used to having me around." "Me too," Conor said. Then he cleared his throat loudly. "You're, you know, kind of blending in here. With the furniture." "Thanks. I guess." I looked behind me at the tables and chairs. I didn't see any similarities, but whatever.

I can't go to my daughter and in any kind of a motherly way say, stop loving your husband so much.' 'We are not talking about love, dear; we are talking about possession.

said it back there, feelings are stronger than chains, you'll never see him as he really is because of your feeling for him, and if you've made up your mind to spend the rest of your days with him

There are people who cannot live unless they possess something or someone. With some it's money. Lots and

Love is suffering. One side always loves more.

I'll never leave here. If I left here, I'd die. And I'll die before I leave here.

Konrad Lorenz, a zoologist, pointed out—and this is part of what won him a Nobel Prize—that attachment can be understood within an evolutionary context in that the mother provides safety for the infant. Attachment is adaptive, enhancing the infant's chance of survival, and is therefore hard-wired into the brain. A baby needs to be held, loved, and cuddled by the mother.

The fear of being abandoned was a strong force in Madeline's life. She'd stayed with a bad husband for years because of it. She also feared that some of her lacklustre and disloyal employees would "abandon" her, so she overpaid them and put up with far too much. As I heard more about her childhood, I realized that her issues stemmed from years of neglect.

Just like you couldn't leave your mother. You were a child. She was all you had. You bonded to indifference and, at times, her cruelty. Your job was to endure it and to protect her from detection.

Danny used one of the most powerful defences known in psychology: depersonalization. He cut off all his feelings. It was the perfect armour. The only problem with his perfect weapon was that he could barely attach to anyone, or feel life's pleasures. As he said at the beginning of our work together, "I don't need joy." He was right, in a way. Is it better to feel or to maintain your sanity? For many years, he chose the latter.

Danny used one of the most powerful defences known in psychology: depersonalization. He cut off all his feelings. It was the perfect armour. The only problem with his perfect weapon was that he could barely attach to anyone, or feel life's pleasures. As he said at the beginning of our work together, "I don't need joy." He was right, in a way. Is it better to feel or to maintain your sanity?

to explore or deal with the world in any normal way. And attachment disorder doesn't just affect the relationship with the mother; it affects all social, emotional, and cognitive development. If the child doesn't experience attachment, that child can't move forward to step two—trusting and emotionally attaching to others and, eventually, sexually attaching to others. In other words, you can't grow emotionally if you didn't have infant attachment.

Our unconscious needs are strong—so strong that they can overwhelm us. We all desperately want to be loved.

What it is like to be any parent. The way you ache when they ache, the way you experience their stomachaches or heartaches or fear in your very self. It's as if, having once been placentally connected to your beating heart, having once inhabited your actual body, your children continue to live there with you. For better and worse, you are never alone again. Parental love defies your apartness from another person.

I guess I really just wanted to pick out the rocks. Because now that I have them? I don't actually want them that much." I felt the exact same way. Sometimes I think that's kind of what stuff is like. You want it until you have it, and then it's like the light inside it goes out.

Jody picked his way downhill along Highway 22, Worthy trotting along beside him on an improvised rope leash. Jody didn't like the rope. It looked shabby, and the last thing he wanted was to mark the dog's value that way.

young. Love is when you can make the following statement, and mean it: 'What's best for her, even if it doesn't include me.' Otherwise you just love the way you feel when she's around, and you want to be selfish with that—hang on to it at all costs, even if it harms her.

Life gives us nothing outright. It only lends. Nothing is ours to keep. Absolutely nothing. Not even our bodies, our brains.

That was the problem with my mother. I could never fully get her voice out of my head.