Quotes About Attachment

When I delved deeper, Shannon admitted that she had tried the controlled crying method "once or twice" over the last several months but gave it up because "it never worked." Each time Shannon had done a complete 180-degree turn on her daughter. She'd left her to cry it out, and then started to pick her up again.

You know what i like about buttons? They're very small things that hold bigger things together. Awfully important, buttons - little but strong.

Was it worse for him, Reynie wondered, to have felt loved and then rejected? Or was it worse to have always felt alone?

For so long, she'd taken her memories of Patty - the memories they'd created together - and held them outside of herself, protecting herself from the pain of carrying them deep within. It was as if she carried all the memories in her jars. But if doing so, it was as if she'd also kept everyone else - those still in her life - at arm's length too.

He had given her too much. He had given her everything.

I don't want to own anything until I know I've found the place where me and things belong together. I'm not quite sure where that is just yet. But I know what it's like.... It's like Tiffany's.... Not that I give a hoot about jewelry. Diamonds, yes. But it's tacky to wear diamonds before you're forty...

DEMONS OF FEAR Confess all your hidden faults! Approach that which you find repulsive! Whoever you think you cannot help, help them! Anything you are attached to, let go of it! Go to places that scare you, like cemeteries! Sentient beings are as limitless as the sky, Be aware! — Dampa Sangye

When working with an outer demon attached to a relationship, it can be helpful to imagine feeding the other person as well as feeding the demon created by our reaction to that person. When I fed my demon of fear of losing my son as part of my divorce, I also fed an imagined form of my husband.

Gods can easily become demons and vice versa. For example, our lover might go from being a god to being a demon and back again. When she or he is doing what we want, we experience a god. When he or she brings up our fears, we see a demon. In a dysfunctional relationship, we cling with longing to the god even though the demon is what we are usually confronted with.

Our hopes are our gods. Gods create struggles similar to our battles with demons, except they are attempts to get something rather than get away from something. Gods are involved with struggles of desire and longing rather than aversion. It is important to distinguish between an inspiration, which triggers positive energy and optimism without great attachment or tension involved, and a god, which is connected to longing for something, or being obsessed with a certain outcome.

Unless that's what this happy feeling is, the one I get every time I see her. Uh-oh.

All the violence, fear, and suffering That exists in the world Comes from grasping at self.

The three poisons are exactly what creates the three realms of samsara. Attachment creates the realms of desire. Aversion creates the realms of form. Indifference creates the realms of formlessness.

Are you very much attached to money?' asked Stephen. 'I love it passionately,' said Jack, with truth ringing clear in his voice. 'I have always been poor, and I long to be rich.

At that time I attached a perhaps undue importance to staying alive, and I became moderately proficient with both the pistol and the small-sword.

What nonsense you do talk, to be sure,' said Stephen. 'What "balls", as you sea-officers say: it is a matter of common observation that a man may be sincerely attached to two women at once – to three, to four, to a very surprising number of women. However,' he said, 'no doubt you know more of these things than I.

Stephen had no great love of the English government in its dealing with Ireland; in fact he had actively conspired against it. But he was deeply attached to individual English men and women, and in any case he did not like anyone to abuse the country but himself.

One cannot have love without ownership

When the uniqueness of a place sings to us like a melody, then we will know, at last, what it means to be at home.

A notable exception is the position taken by Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary in their Psychological Bulletin article, The Need to Belong: Desire for Interpersonal Attachments as a Fundamental

You know you've read a good book when you turn to the last page and feel as little as if you have lost a friend.

Åžtii ca ai citit o carte bun? când întorci ultima pagin? ÅŸi simÅ£i c? parc? ai pierdut un prieten.

Capisci di aver letto un buon libro quando giri l'ultima pagina e ti senti come se avessi perso un amico.

You know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend