Quotes About Attachment

coagulate, v.: It is a dangerous thing, this thickening of affection; you want it to have weight, but not to be an immovable burden.

She is always there for him, and he must like that. His friends like her, and he must like that, too. But that's not the same as love. She has been hanging on to the hope of him for so long that she doesn't realize there isn't anything left to hope for. They don't have silences together; they have noise. -A

This is the hard part about having best friends that I feel no attachment to—I don't give them any benefit of the doubt. And being best friends is always about the benefit of the doubt.

É como se, ao amar alguém, essa pessoa se tornasse sua razão. E talvez seja o inverso; talvez eu tenha me apaixonado por ela porque preciso de uma razão.

This is the hard part about having friends that I feel no attachment to-I don't give them any benefit of the doubt. And being best friends is always about the benefit of the doubt.

But do you know what happens to girls who love lost boys? They becomes lost themselves. Without fail. -A

She has been hanging on to the hope of him for so long that she doesn't realize there isn't anything left to hope for.

Love is so painful, how could you ever with it on anybody?

Quiero estar cerca de él y no por una vaga noción de lo que sería estar a su lado, sino porque ya lo he estado y no quiero que termine.

Even when I detach, I care. You can be separated from a thing and still care about it.

Do you know what I learned? I learned that leaving is bullshit. Because you always take yourself wherever you go.

You leave the place you're from, you have to. But you also need to have it stay in you for a long time. It is your center.

it's as if when you love someone, they become your reason. and maybe I've gotten it backward, maybe it's just because I need a reason that I find myself falling in love

In humans, guarding a bond must last more than days, months, or even years because love can last a lifetime. The dangerous emotion of jealousy evolved to fill this void. Love and jealousy are intertwined passions. They depend on each other and feed on each other.

Absence of jealousy signals lack of love.

We are all prisoners inside the barbed wire of attachment, with sentries of desire and fear guarding us from our freedom. Luxury, comfort, lust for life, vanities are the Detaining Powers of the spirit of every man. - Alastair Cram

Security is having a home town. - Charles Schulz

Jack and Bobby Kennedy were too young, too attached to real family to transfer affection and loyalty to those that of their blood or region or upbringing.

We can begin to look at our own inner areas of immaturity. Specifically, we need to examine: "Where am I looking to get love rather than to give it?" The more loving we are, the less vulnerable we are to grief and loss, and the less we need to seek attachments.

Sometimes we surrender a feeling and we notice that it returns or continues. This is because there is more of it yet to be surrendered

To handle the fear of loss, we have to look at what purpose the external person or object serves in our life. What emotional need is being fulfilled? What emotions would arise were we to lose the object or the person? Loss can be anticipated, and we can handle the various fears associated with the sense of loss by disassembling the emotional complexes that they represent, and letting go of the individual component feelings.

Most people would have found it grotesque, but when you're in love nothing is so abstract or horrible that it can't be thought of as cute.

mates, to my sisters and me, are seen mainly as shadows of the people they're involved with. they move. They're visible in direct sunlight. But because they don't have access to our emotional buttons-- because they can't make us twelve again, or five, and screaming-- they don't really count as players.

I wanted it, I wanted it, I wanted it, but the moment it was mine, it ceased to interest me.