Quotes About Attachment

Love is like the little red toy wagon you get for your Christmas or your sixth birthday. It makes you deliriously happy and you just can't leave it alone. But sooner or later the wheels come off. Then you leave it in a corner and forget it. Falling in love is great. Being in love is a disaster

Like love was a habit you couldn't break.

Cornelia pulled love around me like a coat, tugged it shut, and did up the buttons, as if I belonged to her. And so I did.

Besides, some things just can't make the leap from past to present, and that hat was not a leaper.

la sola idea de repetir una relación como la que tenía con su madre la llenaba de espanto.

I hate how the people who really get you are the ones you can never hold on to for very long. And the ones who don't understand you at all stick around.

Nobody can take another's place. Love doesn't work like that. One can love more than once, but each love is glorious in its own way.

There is no explaining why you love the people who belonged to you. No explaining why you couldn't be objective about them, or indifferent to their disapproval. They are woven into your soul with millions of threads, and cutting them out would make you bleed...

Dogs could die, and bears and deer and other people. That was acceptable, because it was remote. His father could not die. The earth might cave in under him in one vast sink-hole and he could accept it. But without Penny, there was no earth. Without him there was nothing.

Sometimes, when I read a book, I miss the characters when I finish it. When I truly love a book, I read it slowly because I want to remain with those characters. I've experienced the same thing with TV shows and movies. There's no real difference between that and getting attached to a boy from your dreams.

There is no more destructive force in human affairs -- not greed, not hatred -- than the desire to have been right. Non-attachment to possessions is trivial when compared with non-attachment to opinions.

If you have to win, if you have to be right, if you can't lose or can't be wrong, you will cause yourself to define and perceive categories of market information as painful.

To free desire from the tendency to cling, we have to be willing to stumble over ourselves.

We reduce, concretize, or substantialize experiences or feelings, which are, in their very nature, fleeting or evanescent. In so doing, we define ourselves by our moods and by our thoughts. We do not just let ourselves be happy or sad, for instance; we must become a happy person or a sad one. This is the chronic tendency of the ignorant or deluded mind, to make "things" out of that which is no thing.

Developmental trauma occurs when "emotional pain cannot find a relational home in which it can be held."1 In retrospect, I can see that this was the case for

breast-feeding little

her pain, Beck. She loved you enough for both her children.

Robert Anthony wrote one of my favorite quotes regarding anyone wanting to make themselves indispensable: "If you find a good solution and become attached to it, the solution may become your next problem.

It came to my house. It sat on my shoulders. Your shadow is yours. I told it so. I said it was yours. I have carried it with me too long. I give it back.

mind long after he couldn't see them anymore. His urge was to go after the

That's how it always was and always will be, he thought a little bitterly. We come in with nothing, and we go out with nothing.

be careful in loving someone

Whatever is not nailed down is mine. What I can pry loose is not nailed down.

Dogs are a habit, I think.