Quotes About Control

Kindness is the excuse that social justice warriors use when they want to exercise control over what other people think and say.

Put the things you can control in order. Repair what is in disorder, and make what is already good better. It is possible that you can manage, if you are careful. People are very tough. People can survive through much pain and loss. But to persevere they must see the good in Being. If they lose that, that are truly lost.

The forces of tyranny expand inexorably to fill the space made available for their existence.

el orden que aspiramos a imponer en el mundo se puede solidificar a raíz de nuestros cándidos empeños por dejar de sopesar todo lo desconocido. Cuando estos empeños llegan demasiado lejos, acecha el totalitarismo, impulsado por el deseo de ejercer un control completo cuando no es posible ni siquiera a nivel teórico.

the foremost rule is that you must take responsibility for your own life. Period.

A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very, very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control.

It indicates clearly that people need ordering principles, and that chaos otherwise beckons.

Imagine a toddler repeatedly striking his mother in the face. Why would he do such a thing? It's a stupid question. It's unacceptably naive. The answer is obvious. To dominate his mother. To see if he can get away with it. Violence, after all, is no mystery. It's peace that's the mystery. Violence is the default.

The Oedipal mother makes a pact with herself, her children, and the devil himself. The deal is this: "Above all, never leave me.

sheer physical power is an unstable basis on which to found lasting dominance,

You have very little right to break the rules, until you have mastered them.

If you can bite, you generally don't have to. When skillfully integrated, the ability to respond with aggression and violence decreases rather than increases the probability that actual aggression will become necessary.

A totalitarian never asks, "What if my current ambition is in error?" He treats it, instead, as the Absolute. It becomes his God, for all intents and purposes. It constitutes his highest value. It regulates his emotions and motivational states, and determines his thoughts. All people serve their ambition. In that matter, there are no atheists. There are only people who know, and don't know, what God they serve.

Those who are power hungry—tyrannical and cruel, even psychopathic—desire control over others so that every selfish whim of hedonism can be immediately gratified; so that envy can destroy its target; so that resentment can find its expression. But good people are ambitious (and diligent, honest, and focused along with it) instead because they are possessed by the desire to solve genuine, serious problems.

Now, power may accompany authority, and perhaps it must. However, and more important, genuine authority constrains the arbitrary exercise of power.

Once a properly functional hierarchy has been established, an opportunity opens for its positions of authority to be usurped, not by people who have the competence demanded by the task at hand, but by those willing to use manipulation, deceit, and compulsion to gain status and control.

The next thing I ask about is breakfast. I counsel my clients to eat a fat and protein-heavy breakfast as soon as possible after they awaken (no simple carbohydrates, no sugars, as they are digested too rapidly, and produce a blood-sugar spike and rapid dip). This is because anxious and depressed people are already stressed, particularly if their lives have not been under control for a good while.

Living things are always to be found in places they can master, surrounded by things and situations that make them vulnerable.

Your nervous system responds in an entirely different manner when you face the demands of life voluntarily.

But "feeling of a conqueror" can all too easily become "actual conqueror.

Pravilo glasi: ''Do?i k nama ?im se uspiješ primjereno ponašati.'' To je vrlo dobra ponuda za dijete, roditelje i društvo. Lako ?ete vidjeti je li vaše dijete uistinu povratilo kontrolu i opet ?e vam se svi?ati, usprkos prijašnjemu ponašanju. Ako ste još uvijek ljuti, možda se dijete nije u potpunosti pokajalo - ili možda trebate u?initi nešto sa svojom sklonosti inatljivosti.

They believe, narcissistically, underneath all that bad theory, that the world could be put right, if only they held the controls.

If you say no, early in the cycle of oppression, and you mean what you say (which means you state your refusal in no uncertain terms and stand behind it), then the scope for oppression on the part of the oppressor will remain properly bounded and limited. The forces of tyranny expand inexorably to fill the space made available for their existence.

you have positioned yourself where the terror of existence is under control and you are secure, but where you are also alert and engaged. That is where there is something new to master and some way that you can be improved. That is where meaning is to be found.