Quotes About Emotional labor

Writing a poem is like having an affair, a one-night stand; a short story is a romance, a relationship; a novel is a marriage-one has to be cunning, devise compromises, and make sacrifices.

But an apology too — you think you're giving something, but you're not. You're really asking for something. You're asking for forgiveness, you're asking for the other injured person to make it okay for you. Apologies were harder work for the person getting one than the person giving one.

Caregiving also is the object of a more realistic critique, as some have noted the psychological toll of the profession. Scholar Arlie Hochschid...worries about the potential harm to workers who must sell the most intimate parts of themselves, manufacturing smiles and cuddles for low pay.

You have to convince those around you that you're worth their time and energy, and that can be really taxing.

covert contracts and caretaking only lead to frustration and resentment.

She remembered her granny telling her, "Men are like coal boilers, Ellie. If you find a man you reckon to keep, you got to feed his belly every day, make him burn for you, then release some steam purty regular, or you ain't ever gonna get him to work." Hell, Saroya could take a lesson from Granny Peirce!

jobs that require employees to display (positive) emotions that they may not actually be feeling can be psychologically demanding and stressful.

So much of motherhood is acting.

Normally the lightbulb moments only happen after 16-hour days, lots of cups of tea and a bit of weeping.

Your eyes. It's a day's worth of work to look into them.

We can achieve a balanced view of adult love not by remembering what it felt like to be loved as a child but rather by imagining what it took for our parents to love us - namely, a great deal of work.

A woman who 'acts like a man' - who is bold and assertive, and refuses to defer to male authority - is threatening to a system that makes women responsible for men's feelings.

The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is being insincere. That is why so much of social life is exhausting; one is wearing a mask. I have shed my mask.

There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed

When you walk onto any set, it's usually primarily men. Which can be weird, especially when you're doing something emotionally challenging.

The sad heart needs work to do.

Some people won't go the extra mile, and then on their birthday, when no one makes a fuss, they feel neglected and bitter.

I was sick of pretending, sick of selling my feelings for a dollar a day.

It struck her all at once that dealing with other human beings was an awful lot of work.

Je fais du jardinage, je sarcle la pente et je me souviens d'octobre dernier où, dans la douleur, parce qu'il ne m'avait pas appelée, je travaillais là, de la même manière.

Picture being forced to talk endlessly about your feelings and listen and care when what you needed was just to get something done.

I cooked for him like a wife and washed his clothes and was a wife in other ways too terrible to mention.

You don't have half such a hard time as I do, said Jo. How would you like to be shut up for hours with a nervous, fussy old lady, who keeps you trotting, is never satisfied, and worries you till you're ready to fly out the window or cry?

feeling that all women owed him a kind word because one had been cold to him