Quotes About Intimacy

tr?irile emoÈ›ionale intense, indiferent cât ar fi de p?trunz?toare, nu È›in locul unei apropieri reale, care rezist? în timp. Intensitatea si intimitatea nu sunt acelaÈ™i lucru, chiar dac? mulÈ›i oameni le confund?.

When you are starting to fall in love with someone you want to know everything there is to know about them; you want to understand their world and be accepted into it. It is the same for an actor with a new role.

Usually we hate things or people with which we have some emotional involvement.

like a rugby type buying lingerie for his wife. But still.

The steady discipline of intimate friendship with Jesus results in men becoming like Him.

He understood very well that it was just because of this intimacy that their marriage had not survived.

Using someone's name during a conversation was like a casual caress, like stroking their hair.

In the beginning, the lovemaking was frequent and wild, but with little genuine feeling, like good pornography. Our true intimacy was the unspoken belief that we were living honest lives without the artifice and deceit so necessary in most relationships.

What you know about the people whom you know at all well is truly amazing, even though you have never formulated it.

Permit me voyage, love, into your hands...

And as the bandage knot was tightened The two men smiled into each other's eyes.

Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?

There is a red line of intimacy that's been crossed. Exes know things about each other that friends never could. You've altered each other's emotional DNA. You can be friendly with an ex, but exes cannot be friends.

Did I mention the gold piercing of a snake he had through the head of his penis? I'd never seen one before. I asked what you were supposed to do with it. And he said, "Start by making friends.

How many times Can you go back to the same spot With love? I never hope to know. We work patiently at our quarrels, Starting them now like love, Deliberately but with elaborate Ease. When they catch We marvel at the blaze, Crowding in close. 'Inexhaustible!' we shout at one another, Happy for the moment. I never hope to know How many times.

Because you were willing to risk a creative response to anger, you have suddenly become a trusted confidant, not a sparring partner. Once you become skilled in this non-defensive approach to criticism, you will make an important discovery: in most interactions with your spouse, you are actually safer when you lower your defenses than when you keep them engaged, because your partner becomes and ally, not an enemy.

It is often the case, as I have mentioned before, that isolators unwittingly recreate the struggle of their childhood by marrying fusers, people who have an unsatisfied need for intimacy. This way, they perpetuate the conflict that consumed them as children, not as an idle replay of the past or as a neurotic addiction to pain, but as an unconscious act aimed at the resolution of fundamental human needs.

The fact of the matter is that both individuals (fusers and isolators) have the identical need to be loved and cared for. It's just that one of them happens to be more in touch with those feelings than the other.

The partners have learned how to balance the requirements of closeness and separateness, how to create a sexual life that satisfies them both, how to solve problems effectively together, and how to talk and listen to each other so their differing points of view are understood and honored.

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?" Because you can't always have both. You can't cuddle up and relax with "being right" after a long day.

Ironically, for reasons we will explore in later chapters, fusers (who experienced neglectful caretaking) and isolators (who experienced intrusive parenting) tend to grow up and marry each other, thus beginning an infuriating game of push and pull that leaves neither partner satisfied.

One minute you're involved in your life as you know it, when suddenly you see the one. Your eyes meet (perhaps across a crowded room). Heart palpitations start. And the fairy tale of romance begins. Flowers, batting eyelashes, shared meals, laughter. Sunset walks and little love gifts to each other. You spend hours looking forward to your next time together. Maybe you'll see a movie or simply hang out—talking about everything and nothing.

A man who attended a recent workshop said that "falling in love with my wife made me feel loved and accepted for who I was for the very first time. It was intoxicating.

From our view, these scars are very active in adult intimate relationships and show up constantly when a partner turns away or shows a still face when the other is trying to engage.