Quotes About Intimacy

But in so many ways I'm still that kid, not sure exactly how to be emotionally intimate with a girl without feeling weak, not sure my work is good enough, not sure if the people who are clapping would really like me if they got to know me (page 2)

if we live behind a mask we can impress but we can't connect.

I knew then, this relationship would have to be different. I knew I'd have to know myself and be known. These weren't only terrifying prospects, they were foreign. I didn't know how to do either. And the stakes were high. I was going to have to either learn to be healthy or I'd spend the rest of my life pretending. It was either intimacy or public isolation.

Unless we're honest with each other, we can't connect. We can't be intimate.

It's funny what happens to you when part of your heart gets born inside somebody else.

WE WILL NEVER FEEL loved until we drop the act, until we're willing to show our true selves to the people around us.

To Create a Good Relationship You Must Keep in Touch

They never tell you when you get born a control freak it will cost you a healthy love life. But it's true. You can't control somebody and have intimacy with them at the same time.

A Sales Funnel Controls the Pace of the Relationship In a relationship, you talk about things on a fourth or fifth date you might never talk about on a first date.

We think stories are about getting money and security, but the truth is, it all comes down to relationships.

If raising healthy children involves telling the truth about the family narrative, that was something I could do. It would take some practice and a whole lot of courage, but I could do it. I felt a sense of relief. If honesty is the key to intimacy, it means we don't have to be perfect and, moreover, we don't have to pretend to be perfect.

Part I THE THREE STAGES OF RELATIONSHIP

when two people are entirely and completely separate they are finally compatible to be one. Nobody's self-worth lives inside of another person. Intimacy means we are independently together.

The more fully we live into ourselves, the more impact we will have. Acting may get us the applause we want, but taking a risk on being ourselves is the only path toward true intimacy. And true intimacy, the exchange of affection between two people who are not lying, is transforming.

all relationships move through three stages. And, these stages cannot be rushed. The stages of a relationship are:         1.    Curiosity         2.    Enlightenment         3.    Commitment

I get it," he said. "I was supposed to give you your space. I didn't want to. So...I compromised. Only, you frustrate the hell out of me, and I'm all done with being frustrated. This is what I wanted to do. Pretty much from the moment we stopped doing it. You?" She was still reeling, from the kiss, and the declaration. "Me, yes. Uh, too. Me, too." "Good." Then he kissed her again.**

Sex, no matter how explosive and emotional, was just sex after all, at least until someone said or did something to make it more than that

I'm glad I'm sitting down, Guido. You make my knees go all wobbly.

He looked at his wedding ring, twirled it around once or twice with his thumb. What pleasure it gave him to touch it, as though it were some sort of cult object, invested with magic powers, always near at hand, like a friendly spirit.

More than anything I was relieved that in my unfamiliar babbling-and-wanting-to-talk state I'd stopped myself from blurting the thing I'd never said, even though it was something we both knew well enough without me saying out loud to him in the street - which was, of course, I love you.

The center of my earth is you

But though it was the most resonant and real-seeming thing that had happened in a long time, I didn't want to spoil it by talking about it...

with a grief no less sharp for not being intimate with its object.

The lamplight was warm and the apartment still and snug. At home in bed, in my private abyss of longing, the scenes I dreamed of always began like this. I could lose myself forever in that singular little face, in the pessimism of her beautiful mouth. When I imagined these phrases cast in her voice, they were almost intolerably sweet; now, sitting right beside her, it was unthinkable that I should voice them myself.