Quotes About Intimacy

If all of the money was gone from my life, Would you still love me?" a man asks his wife. "Of course," she replies. "Come here, let me kiss you. I'll love you forever, but boy would I miss you!

We were born with four words engraved on our bodies and in our hearts: Love me, hold me.

We don't fear physical closeness because we fear proximity itself. Most of us earnestly want physical contact with those who love us. Rather we fear what we will feel when we get too close. The real fear, then, is of ourselves. This fear is not something to rebuke ourselves for. It is our deepest vulnerability, the very quality that makes us most lovable.

Thus, we strive for intimacy with the whole universe, not just with one person.

spirituality. In healthy intimate relationships we do not seek more than 25 percent of our nurturance from a partner; we learn to find the rest within ourselves.

If you use sarcasm, ridicule, teasing, pinching, tickling, or barbed kidding at times, make a commitment to cease using these passive-aggressive weapons against your partner or anyone.

Most people in relationships seldom know what they really want, ask for what they really want, or show what they really feel. Most people avoid or fear intimacy, consistent

engaging with our grief is a form of self-nurturance and liberation from neediness. Paradoxically, to enter our wounded feelings fully places us on the path to healthy intimacy.

Wise adults begin relationships not with the romance phase but with an investigation phase. We check out the other, looking to see if he or she is trustworthy, has the ability to give the five A's, and possesses the qualities that are important to us. Only when we are secure in the knowledge that the other is trustworthy do we open ourselves to letting love happen.

The ability to hear someone is really about trust, not simply about communication. A trust issue always lurks beneath a communication difficulty.

If our emotional needs were fulfilled by our parents/caregivers, we emerge from childhood with a trust that others can give us what we need. We can then receive love from others without distress or compulsion. Our needs are moderate. We can trust someone to help fulfill our needs while we help fulfill hers. This provides a foundation for a life of intimacy and equanimity.

To love is to become loving.

A declaration of our own history of trust is essential in understanding ourselves and in growing in intimacy with our partner.

excitement. Her words do not, though she speaks softly enough that I'm the only one able to hear them. "Hi, Andy," she says. "What's

The specter of sexual intimacy made it rare for women to participate in this male bonding.

Passionate intimacy between people of the same sex was common in pre—Civil War America. The lack of clear sexual categories (homo-, hetero-, bi-) made same-sex affection unself-conscious and widespread.

In the free, easy social atmosphere of pre–Civil War America, overt displays of affection between people of the same sex were common. Women hugged, kissed, slept with, and proclaimed love for other women. Men did the same with other men.

Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you're offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone's feelings

In the car, however, I see a stranger. And yet he is a stranger whose every part I know intimately.

You can sort of be married, you can sort of be divorced, you can sort of be living together, but you can't sort of have a baby.

sergeant thinking about an excellent detective who's threatening to quit) For a squad sergeant, having Worden working for you was like having sex: When it was good it was great and even when it wasn't so hot, it was still pretty damn good.

Perhaps people found talking to software less intimidating than talking to an actual person; maybe it was because a computer could ask them franker questions that would be deemed too invasive or rude coming from a human.

La peor consecuencia de la vejez es que los demás invaden tu intimidad. Ya nadie respeta las manías, las costumbres, tu forma particular de hacer las cosas, desde la higiene a la organización del día. Alguien, con la intención de ayudar, se ocupa de ti. Pero ocuparse de ti es ocupar tu territorio íntimo. La independencia perdida de mi padre le transformó en un señor malhumorado. La incapacidad para valerse solo le enfrentó con los demás.

Strength is the willingness to take risks in a relationship, to disclose yourself with the intention of building a better relationship.