Quotes About Intimacy

We believe that friendship is an excellent reason to have sex, and that sex is an excellent way to maintain a friendship

Con la práctica, podemos desarrollar una intimidad basada en la cordialidad y respeto mutuo mucho más libre que la desesperación, necesidad o la locura ciega de enamorarse

Temporary marks, like bruises or welts that last a few days, are common occurrences in S/M. However, some people – such as those with vanilla partners at home – might have problems with them, so it's probably a good idea to ask about marks before you haul out the cast-iron cane.

We would propose that we do love our friends, whether or not we have sex with them: these individuals are our family, often more permanent in our lives than marriages.

There is no reason why any relationship in our lives can't be blessed with intimacy.

More pragmatically, we have had long, intense intimate conversations that felt deeply sexual to us. And we have had intercourse that didn't feel terribly sexual.

A flowerchild in a 1967 interview made the most succinct description of ethical sluthood we've ever seen : "We believe it's okay to have sex with anybody you love... and we believe in loving everybody. You are already whole.".

If you don't want to play tennis with me, I'll ask somebody else, and if you don't want to play bondage games with me, somebody else will—our relationship will not be less for it. What we share is valuable for what we share. Period.

centuries of censorship have left us with very little adequate language with which to discuss the joys and occasional worries of sex.

when sex and love and intimacy are truly free, and seen as positive forces in our lives and in the world, we will be much more able to solve the problems of rape, sexual bullying, shaming, and repression.

Be good to yourself and remember that the most important part of love is not loving someone's beauty and strength and virtue. The real test of love is when someone sees our weaknesses, our stupidities, and our smallnesses, and still loves us. This unconditional love is what we want from our lovers, and we should expect no less from ourselves

I'm into S/M" is a turnoff to a lot of people who have mistaken ideas about what that means

Make it a point to let everyone you love know it.

One of the wonderful things about building sexual friendships is that, while past relationships and smaller affairs may come and go over the years, each pairing has its own characteristic and unique intimacy.

nipple tug-of-war," in which two people both put on nipple clamps with chains running from one person to the other and lean backwards so that both sets of tits get a nice steady pull, is a good example.

Sex is for pleasure, a complete and worthwhile goal in and of itself. People have sex because it feels very good, and then they feel good about themselves. The worthiness of pleasure is one of the core values of ethical sluthood.

After duly binding, stripping, beating, torturing and fucking Dossie, Janet held her and brought her nicely back down to earth. Then we went upstairs for something to eat.

One of the great joys of living as a slut is the opportunity to make intimate connections with people whose background is unlike your own. When you do that, you will find yourself tripping, with some embarrassment, over a lot of differences. This process can feel awkward, but every time it happens, you've learned something new about how people go about being human—perhaps just the thing that was lacking in your own culture.

We define consent as an active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned.

We are now hearing people refer to certain of their lovers as "friends with benefits," an interesting concept. Why shouldn't we share the manifold benefits of sex with our friends, making sex a natural part of the love and honor and loyalty and openheartedness that we already share?

The real test of love is when a person—including you—can know your weaknesses, your stupidities and your smallnesses, and still love you.

the most successful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.

The cultural ban on having sex with your friends is an inevitable offshoot of a societal belief that the only acceptable reason to have sex is to lead to a monogamous marriagelike relationship.

Fighting is the ultimate act of intimacy. (...) Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability.