Quotes About Intimacy

The euphoria of the in-love state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.

We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.

am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. The way we express those desires, however, is all-important. If they come across as demands, we have erased the possibility of intimacy and will drive our spouse away.

For the female, sexual desire is far more influenced by her emotions. If she feels loved and admired and appreciated by her husband, then she has a desire to be physically intimate with him. But without the emotional closeness, she may have little physical desire. Her biological sexual drive is closely tied to her emotional need for love.

Material things are no replacement for human, emotional love. A wife says, "He ignores me all day long and then wants to jump in bed with me. I hate it." She is not a wife who hates sex; she is a wife desperately pleading for emotional love.

Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love. That is why the ancient biblical writings spoke of the husband and wife becoming "one flesh." That did not mean that individuals would lose their identity; it meant that they would enter into each other's lives in a deep and intimate way.

Usually if a wife feels loved by her husband, she will desire sexual intimacy. If she does not, she will likely feel used in the sexual context. That is why loving someone who is not loving you is extremely difficult. It goes against our natural tendencies.

Nuestra necesidad emocional más básica no es enamorarnos, sino ser amado de verdad por el otro, conocer un amor que brota de la razón y de la decisión, no del instinto.

Because the desire and drive for intimacy are at the very heart of marriage, the individuals involved become troubled about their relationship when such intimacy is not attained.

Love blossoms when we water it with prayer. — Donna J. Howard —

Gary Chapman

If I give my wife twenty minutes of quality time, I have given her twenty minutes of my life, and she has done the same for me. It is a powerful emotional communicator of love.

We needed love before we "fell in love" and we will need it as long as we live.

Finding out how your loved one feels love is an important step to expressing love effectively.

We allow the emotions of hurt, disappointment, and anger to keep us from speaking positive words to each other, or maybe we simply get stuck in a pattern of negative comments. As a result, distance and dissatisfaction grow. All of us long to hear affirming words, and those whose primary love language is affirming words long for them even more. We like to sense that our efforts are appreciated, and that our spouse sees something good in us.

Some husbands and wives think they are spending time together when, in reality, they are only living in close proximity.

Part of loving successfully is learning what says "I love you" to those in our lives. — Jenni Davenport

When we choose to love in spite of our feelings, we find negative feelings will dissipate, and feelings of intimacy return. Loving acts create loving feelings.

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When I have been wronged by my spouse and she has painfully confessed it and requested forgiveness, I have the option of justice or forgiveness. If I choose justice and seek to pay her back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself the judge and she the felon. Intimacy becomes impossible. If, however, I choose to forgive, intimacy can be restored. Forgiveness is the way of love.

Enjoy God on a personal level—and let Him enjoy you! — Jeanette Gardner Littleton

If I choose justice and seek to pay my spouse back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself the judge and her the felon. Intimacy becomes impossible. If, however, I choose to forgive, intimacy can be restored. Forgiveness is the way of love.

a request creates the possibility for an expression of love, whereas a demand suffocates that possibility.