Quotes About Self-control

Si no es dañino para ti ni para otros, puedes hacer lo que quieras.»

Amar sin apegos es amar sin miedos. Es asumir el derecho a explorar intensamente el mundo, a hacerse cargo de uno mismo y a buscar un sentido de vida. También significa tener una actitud realista frente al amor, afianzar el autorespeto y fortalecer el autocontrol. Es disfrutar de la dupla placer/seguridad, sin volverla imprescindible. Es hacer las paces con Dios y la incertidumbre. Es tirar la certeza a la basura y dejar que el universo se haga cargo de uno. Es aprender a renunciar.

Hay personas tan prudentes que no comen, y otras tan sumisas que piden permiso para hacerlo. Ambas mueren por inanición. La moderación es un atributo admirado por casi todas las culturas y requisito fundamental para garantizar la convivencia y salvaguardar la integridad psicológica de la gente, pero si se hace de ella un supervalor se comienza a transitar peligrosamente por los límites de la falsedad y el bloqueo emocional.

La prudencia es futuro, prevención, anticipación responsable, deseo razonado. Está diseñada para evaluar el antes de, para que no tengamos que arrepentirnos del después de. No es un freno de emergencia asfixiante, sino autorregulación, juicio y lucidez orientada a no lastimar ni lastimarse. Kant decía: "La prudencia aconseja, la moral ordena". Una asertividad sin prudencia tarde o temprano se transforma en agresión.

No debo permitirme ninguna falla, si quiero triunfar. El más mínimo error debe ser drásticamente sancionado y removido". Autocastigo en estado puro: no sólo te vuelves perfeccionista de tu propio ser, sino que te azotas

aplica las siguientes dos máximas y adhiérete a los límites que marcan, por si la culpa y la preocupación no te dejan "descontrolarte" (en el buen sentido). Ponlas en un lugar visible y échale un vistazo de tanto en tanto:   1. Puedes hacer lo que quieras, si no es dañino para ti ni para nadie. 2. Haz lo que quieras, si no violas la Carta Universal de los Derechos Humanos.   Que

La resistencia paciente del budista no es pasividad sino una estrategia para que los pensamientos y las emociones negativas no se apoderen de la mente y alteren el comportamiento. La asertividad, además de proteger nuestro amor propio, nos permite modular la violencia interior, para acceder a la dignidad de una manera inteligente.

Not being able to govern events, I govern myself, and if they will not adapt to me, I adapt to them. Montaigne, Of Presumption (1580)

The most important thing to do if you find yourself in a hole is to stop digging.

one could not choose one's family, but one could certainly choose one's manners.

I supposed I've always thought if you really wanted something you shouldn't ask for it.

a man who has the strength of character to leave off when he has only ruined others, is a reformed character.

It was something they did without thinking. They had formed meditation habits. High "self-controllers" achieved desired outcomes by streamlining, not struggling.

Self-control is simple when you understand that it involves putting yourself in the right situations to develop the right habits.

The good effects that we popularly ascribe to "self-control" are, it seems, more accurately captured by situational control.24 The studies and stories just cited established this mechanism, a mechanism that will undergird every part of habit formation.

THE STRONGEST MAN ALIVE IS THE MAN WHO CAN HOLD HIS PEACE IN THE FACE OF EVERY AGGRAVATION, AND THE WEAKEST ONE IS HE WHO CANNOT HOLD THAT PEACE!

Don't throw away your freedom by stealing a handcuff."

No one can train you to be famous. How do you deal with the loss of anonymity, the loss of privacy? You have to be disciplined.

Don't let me think.

Baumeister's group has repeatedly found that an effort of will or self-control is tiring; if you have had to force yourself to do something, you are less willing or less able to exert self-control when the next challenge comes around. The phenomenon has been named ego depletion. In

Self-control and deliberate thought apparently draw on the same limited budget of effort.... This is how the law of least effort comes to be a law. Even in the absence of time pressure, maintaining a coherent train of thought requires discipline.

people are first depleted by a task in which they eat virtuous foods such as radishes and celery while resisting the temptation to indulge in chocolate and rich cookies. Later, these people will give up earlier than normal when faced with a difficult cognitive task.

Baumeister's group has repeatedly found that an effort of will or self-control is tiring; if you have had to force yourself to do something, you are less willing or less able to exert self-control when the next challenge comes around. The phenomenon has been named ego depletion.

people who are simultaneously challenged by a demanding cognitive task and by a temptation are more likely to yield to the temptation.