Quotes About Self-control

As we make and keep commitments, even small commitments, we begin to establish an inner integrity that gives us the awareness of self-control and the courage and strength to accept more of the responsibility for our own lives. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods.

make decisions based on our values and not how we felt in the moment.

Some people say that you have to like yourself before you can like others. I think that idea has merit, but if you don't know yourself, if you don't control yourself, if you don't have mastery over yourself, it's very hard to like yourself, except in some short-term, psych-up, superficial way.

that no one can hurt me without my consent

Leí ese párrafo una y otra vez. Básicamente contenía la idea simple de que existe una brecha o un espacio entre el estímulo y la respuesta, y de que en el empleo de ese espacio está la clave de nuestro crecimiento y nuestra felicidad.

being a puppet pulled by someone else's strings to high proactivity, the power to act according to your own values instead of being acted upon by other people and circumstances.

a fundamental principle about the nature of man: Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.

La capacidad para subordinar los impulsos a los valores es la esencia de la persona proactiva. Las personas reactivas se ven impulsadas por sentimientos, por las circunstancias, por las condiciones, por el ambiente. Las personas proactivas se mueven por valores: valores cuidadosamente meditados, seleccionados e interiorizados.

No one can hurt you without your consent." In the words of Gandhi, "They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.

The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environments. Proactive people are driven by values- carefully thought about, selected and internalised values.

The problems we face fall in one of three areas: direct control (problems involving our own behavior); indirect control (problems involving other people's behavior); or no control (problems we can do nothing about, such as our past or situational realities).

Remind yourself of the gap between stimulus and response. Make a commitment to yourself to exercise your freedom to choose.

self-initiated and feeds upon itself. You will develop your abilities faster by learning to make and keep promises or commitments. Start by making a small promise to yourself; continue fulfilling that promise until you have a sense that you have a little more control over yourself. Now take the next level of challenge.

Personal responsibility, or proactivity, is fundamental to the first creation. Returning to the computer metaphor, Habit 1 says, "You are the programmer." Habit 2, then, says, "Write the program." Until you accept the idea that you are responsible, that you are the programmer, you won't really invest in writing the program.

response-ability"—the ability to choose your response.

Quality of life depends on what happens in the space between stimulus and response.

If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control—myself.

if you don't know yourself, if you don't control yourself, if you don't have mastery over yourself, it's very hard to like yourself, except in some short-term, psych-up, superficial way.

In the final analysis, effective delegation takes the emotional courage to allow, to one degree or another, others to make some mistakes on our own time, money, and good name. This courage consists of patience, self-control, faith in others and in their potential, and respect for individual differences.

to be proactive you must learn to act and not be acted upon.

Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values.

ACT OR BE ACTED UPON

A good affirmation has five basic ingredients: it's personal, it's positive, it's present tense, it's visual, and it's emotional. So I might write something like this: "It is deeply satisfying (emotional) that I (personal) respond (present tense) with wisdom, love, firmness, and self-control (positive) when my children misbehave.

He could decide within himself how all of this was going to affect him