Quotes About Self-control

We follow the codes not because they bring gain, but because we loathe the people we would otherwise become.

Never throw the first punch. If you have to throw the second, try to make sure they don't get up for a third.

Control yourself, she told herself forcibly. Become someone who can deal with this. She took a deep breath and let herself become someone else. An imitation of herself who was calm, even in a situation like this. It was a crude forgery, just a trick of the mind, but it worked.

Her aunt Sol had once told Shai to smile at the worst insults and snap at the minor ones. That way, no man would know your heart.

Once one becomes a man, he can and must make his own decisions. But I do offer warning. Even a good thing can become destructive if taken to excess.

Don't try to stop yourself from feeling. You'll hate who you become.

Wayne held back a smile, tucking it into his pocket for later use.

Get better. Learn to accept that sometimes what you feel isn't invalid, but that it doesn't mean you have to act according to those feelings either.

The first step to being in control was to see yourself as capable of being in control.

Your emotions are your own business.

Perhaps she could leave if she managed to save up enough money. That was hard, almost impossible. Every time she got a coin, she spent it on food. She couldn't help herself. Nothing else seemed to matter.

Most people make themselves look bad. I just stand to the side and don't get in the way.

She took a deep breath and let herself become someone else. An imitation of herself who was calm, even in a situation like this. It was a crude forgery, just a trick of the mind, but it worked.

You should try not to talk so much, friend. You'll sound far less stupid that way. - Breeze

To lack feeling is to be dead, but to act on every feeling is to be a child.

Personally, I have learned that when I'm experiencing shame, I often act out in ways that are inconsistent with who I want to be.

If we choose to heal with calm, we have to commit to practicing calm. Small things matter. For example, before we respond we can count to ten or give ourselves permission to say, "I'm not sure. I need to think about this some more." It's also extremely effective to identify the emotions that are the most likely to spark your reactivity and then practice non-reactive responses.

Sometimes I actually think to myself, I'm dying to freak out here! Do I have enough information to freak out? Will freaking out help? The answer is always no.

But if their behaviors are not okay, we set the boundaries: I know this is a tough conversation. Being angry is okay. Yelling is not okay. I know we're tired and stressed. This has been a long meeting. Being frustrated is okay. Interrupting people and rolling your eyes is not okay. I appreciate the passion around these different opinions and ideas. The emotion is okay. Passive-aggressive comments and put-downs are not okay.

Emotional stoicism and self-control are rewarded, and displays of emotion are punished. Vulnerability is now weakness. Anger becomes an acceptable substitute for fear, which is forbidden.

Mindfulness requires that we not "over-identify" with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negativity.

Never miss a good chance to shut up.

Hardship and danger destroys fewer people than indulgence.

Many years ago Wallander had learned that one of the manifold virtues a police officer must possess is the ability to be patient with himself.