Quotes About Emotions

Stress makes people stupid." On

The most powerful form of nondefensive listening, of course, is empathy: actually hearing the feelings behind what is being said.

The neocortex allows for the subtlety and complexity of emotional life, such as the ability to have feelings about our feelings.

Other research has shown that in the first few milliseconds of our perceiving something we not only unconsciously comprehend what it is, but decide whether we like it or not; the "cognitive unconscious" presents our awareness with not just the identity of what we see, but an opinion about it.7 Our emotions have a mind of their own, one which can hold views quite independently of our rational mind.

Emotional aptitude is a meta-ability , determining how well we can use whatever other skills we have , including raw inellect .

People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought. A

Emotional resilience comes down to how quickly we recover from upsets. People who are highly resilient—who bounce back right away—can have as much as thirty times more activation in the left prefrontal area than those who are less resilient.

In short, out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid.

In the calculus of the heart it is the ratio of positive to negative emotions that determines the sense of well- being.

the ability to monitor feelings from moment to moment is crucial to psychological insight and self-understanding. An

Experience, particularly in childhood, sculpts the brain. The

A series of studies by Marian Radke-Yarrow and Carolyn Zahn-Waxler at the National Institute of Mental Health showed that a large part of this difference in empathic concern had to do with how parents disciplined their children. Children, they found, were more empathic when the discipline included calling strong attention to the distress their misbehavior caused someone else: "Look how sad you've made her feel" instead of "That was naughty.

Academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life. The brightest among us can founder on the shoals of unbridled passions and unruly impulses; people with high IQs can be stunningly poor pilots of their private lives.

Rumination can also make the depression stronger by creating conditions that are, well, more depressing.

And that is the problem: academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil—or opportunity—life's vicissitudes bring. Yet even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring emotional intelligence, a set of traits—some might call it character—that also matters immensely for our personal destiny.

There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all emotions, by their very nature, lead to one or another impulse to act.

La vida es una comedia para quienes piensan y una tragedia para quienes sienten. Horace Walpole

The ability to control impulse is the base of will and character. By the same token, the root of altruism lies in empathy, the ability to read emotions in others; lacking a sense of another's need or despair, there is no caring. And if there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self-restraint and compassion.

Not that leaders need to be overly "nice"; the emotional art of leadership includes pressing the reality of work demands without unduly upsetting people.

the workings of the amygdala and its interplay with the neocortex are at the heart of emotional intelligence.

Empathy builds on self-awareness; the more open we are to our own emotions, the more skilled we will be in reading feelings.

shapes those feelings.

Los pensamientos obsesivos son la leña que alimenta el fuego de la ira, un fuego que sólo podrá extinguirse contemplando las cosas desde un punto de vista diferente

emotional intelligence accounts for 80 percent of career success.