Quotes About Emotions

It did not eliminate the tumor, but it did restore her missing self-esteem, and that made all the difference in the way she felt.

It would be nice if I could make my wife happy now because she seems upset. I can ask what she's upset about and see if there might be a way I could help. Or instead of I shouldn't have eaten the ice cream, you can say, It would have been better if I hadn't eaten the ice cream, but it's not the end of the world that I did.

I asked her to imagine that we had a magic button and that if she pushed it, all of her negative thoughts and feelings would instantly disappear, with no effort at all, and she'd immediately feel joyous, even euphoric. Would she push the button?

I told Maria that I didn't have a magic button, but I did have some awesome tools, and I predicted that if we used them, she'd probably feel a whole lot better by the end of the session and might even feel joyful. But I told her I wasn't so sure it would be a good idea to use those tools.

Every time you feel depressed about something, try to identify a corresponding negative thought you had just prior to and during the depression. Because these thoughts have actually created your bad mood, by learning to restructure them, you can change your mood.

What are some benefits, or advantages, of this negative thought or feeling? How might it be helping you and your baby?

What does this negative thought or feeling show about you and your core values that's positive and awesome?

If the comments are wrong, there is really nothing for you to be upset about. On the other hand, if the criticism is accurate, there is still no reason for you to feel overwhelmed. You're not expected to be perfect.

Your moody thoughts are likely to be entirely different from those you have when you are not upset.

While those individuals with more severe emotional disturbances will need the help of a mental health professional, individuals with more manageable problems can benefit by using the newly developed "common sense

Emotional Reasoning. This involves reasoning from the way you feel, such as: "I feel like an idiot, so I must be one" or "I feel hopeless, so things are never going to get better." Or in the case of panic attacks, "I feel like I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown, so I must be in a lot of danger.

your thoughts create your feelings.

Self-Directed Shouldslead to feelings of guilt and inferiority when we don't live up to our self-imposed standards ("I shouldn't have screwed up!").

Other-Directed Shoulds lead to feelings of anger and frustration when others don't meet our expectations ("He shouldn't feel that way" or "She shouldn't have said that!"). Other-directed shoulds cause conflicts with others, such as marital problems, arguments, and even violence and war.

In contrast, if you are harboring the deep fear that you are going insane and are experiencing episodes of panic in which you sense you are losing control or going over the deep end, it is a near certainty that you are not. These are typical symptoms of ordinary anxiety, a much less serious disorder.

In one sense, depression can feel even worse than cancer, because most cancer patients feel hope as well as self-esteem.

But your feelings are not always a reliable guide to reality and

The first principle of cognitive therapy is that all your moods are created by your "cognitions," or thoughts. A cognition refers to the way you look at things—your perceptions, mental attitudes, and beliefs.

You feel the way you do right now because of the thoughts you are thinking at this moment

Definitions of Cognitive Distortions

Your essential emotional tone—at ease in your deepest purpose or fearful in the ambiguity of your intent—becomes part of your children's home.

The way you relate to your woman's chaos reflects the way you react to the chaos of the world. If you are the kind of man who needs everything placed neatly in its nice little box, then you will also try to box your woman's emotions. If you are the kind of man who would rather hire other people to take care of the chaos in your attic, or the chaos of your finances, you would probably also rather leave it to someone else to take care of the chaos of your woman.

Learn to find humor in the unending emotional drama the feminine seems to enjoy so much.

Never base your plans on what a woman says she wants to do, unless she is in the full flow of love when she says it. And then, expect her to change her mind at any moment when her feelings change.