Quotes About Emotions

La noche pertenece al día anterior en nuestro sentimiento

Mis manos son de tu color; pero me avergüenzo de llevar un corazón tan blanco.

No sólo la incertidumbre y la espera, también la irracional expectativa, las fantasías, se convierten en esenciales para el corazón de una persona, y ya no es capaz de renunciar a ellas. Pueden convertirse en esenciales hasta el lamento y la pena, el despecho, y le acaban conformando a uno su manera de convivir con el mundo

Vivere nell'inganno o essere ingannati è facile, e anzi è la nostra condizione naturale: nessuno va esente da questo e nessuno è stupido per questo, non dovremmo opporci più di tanto e non dovremmo amareggiarci

No siempre reconocemos las historias de amor de los demás, ni siquiera cuando somos nosotros su objeto, su meta, su fin.

Y sí, yo lo echaba enormemente de menos y me imaginaba que él a mí también. Pero lo del otro pertenece siempre a ese terreno, al de la imaginación. Uno nunca sabe a ciencia cierta, ni siquiera sabe si las declaraciones más encendidas son verdad o interpretación o convención, son sentidas o lo que el otro cree que le toca sentir y está dispuesto a decir.

Coqueteé ocasionalmente con la desesperación, nunca por gusto sino porque ataca sin avisar;

Los vínculos del engaño y la desdicha son los más fuertes de todos." Javier Marias - Asi empieza lo malo

Corporations [gained] direct access to what we may think of as our humanity, emotions, and agency but, in this context, are really just buttons.

difficult conversations do not just involve feelings, they are at their very core about feelings.

Talking successfully about feelings requires you to be scrupulous about taking the judgments, attributions, and statements of blame out of what you are saying, and putting the statement of feeling in. It is crucial to look at the actual words you are using to see whether those words really convey what you want them to. For

we have a deep desire to feel heard, and to know that others care enough to listen.

It's hard to hear someone else when we are feeling unheard, even if the reason we feel unheard is that we have chosen not to share.

strong emotions can seem as if they are part of the environment rather than part of us. It's not that I was angry, we think, it's that the situation was tense. But situations are not

The big three blind spots are tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language. The listener is very aware of these, the talker is not.

You know the problem is her—she brings out your worst. But it is your worst. It's you under pressure, you in conflict. It's here that we often have the most room to grow. When we are under stress or in conflict we lose skills we normally have, impact others in ways we don't see, are at a loss for positive strategies. We need honest mirrors in these moments, and often that role is played best by those with whom we have the hardest time.

Relationship triggers produce hurt, suspicion, and sometimes anger. The way out is to disentangle the feedback from the relationship issues it triggers, and to discuss both, clearly and separately. In practice, we almost never do this. Instead, as receivers, we take up the relationship issues and let the original feedback drop.

Wherever you want to go, understanding – imagining yourself into the other person's story – has got to be your first step. Before you can figure out how to move forward, you need to understand where you are. The

She asks questions. She paraphrases what her mother says to make sure she understands it, and to make sure her mother understands that Greta understands. Greta is also listening for the feelings that might be behind what her mother is saying, and acknowledges them when she hears them.

Can you say a little more about how you see things? • What information might you have that I don't? • How do you see it differently? • What impact have my actions had on you? • Can you say a little more about why you think this is my fault? • Were you reacting to something I did? • How are you feeling about all of this? • Say more about why this is important to you. • What would it mean to you if that happened? If

You can establish an evaluation-free zone by respecting the following guidelines: share pure feelings (without judgments, attributions, or blame); save problem-solving until later; and don't monopolize.

Peanuts aren't nuts. Whales aren't fish. Tomatoes aren't vegetables. And attributions, judgments, and accusations aren't feelings.

Most of us assume that our feelings are static and nonnegotiable, and that if they are to be shared authentically, they must be shared "as is." In fact, our feelings are based on our perceptions, and our perceptions (as we have seen in the preceding three chapters) are negotiable.

What is the story we are telling ourselves that is giving rise to how we feel? What is our story missing? What might the other person's story be? Almost