Quotes About Emotions

Why should my happiness depend on the thoughts going on in someone else's head?

We don't get caught in the trap of letting the situation upset us and then having to stay upset waiting for the situation to change to our satisfaction.

skill in dealing with emotions (yours and someone else's) and in communicating effectively on an interpersonal level.

Concerning feelings, the most important point to remember is that everyone has them, and we should never be ashamed nor apologize for feeling the way we do. Feelings have no moral value.

Feelings are best handled by expressing them, and worst handled by denying them, by pretending they don't exist.

you have chosen the person most able to help you grow in emotional maturity.

tells people how to recognize and deal with their feelings, and how to help others do the same thing by working through their mutual communications problems. Like Hendrix, he places great emphasis on listening. He lists three phases of ethical persuasion: First, exploring the other's position (listening), then explaining your viewpoint, and finally creating resolution.

We are often called upon to defend our opinions; we need never defend our feelings

Who or what makes you happy or sad, confident or fearful, up-beat or worried? Do you choose your feelings, or does some other person or situation make you feel the way you feel?

What would your life be like if you had the courage and wisdom to take charge? What if you made up your mind that from now on for the rest of your life, you alone would decide how you were going to feel? What kind of emotional life would you choose for yourself?

He stresses the wisdom of complaining, of expressing rather than storing negative feelings. These feelings belong to you, not the other person. Expressing them is a proper way of handling them. But criticizing, on the other hand, constitutes a direct attack on your partner's character.

Today I see myself as a spiritual being with three distinct human facets: I am what I think; I am what I do; I am what I feel. And, to the degree that I control my thinking, I control my actions. To the degree that I control both my thinking and my actions, I control my feelings. Then, the circle is completed when my feelings affect my thinking which again affects my actions.

But we can make progress. With practice, a good attitude, and the help of a Higher Power, we can markedly reduce both the frequency and the duration of those periods when we allow others to determine the state of our emotions.

With increasing awareness of both how we feel at any particular moment, and why we have chosen to feel that way, we develop the ability to change our emotional state if we wish to do so. We generate an awareness of whether we have chosen our current feelings or have allowed them to be implanted by an outside person or circumstance.

For many of us, emotional sobriety fluctuates wildly in personal value.

Oddly enough, not everyone wants to be affected in a positive way. Some individuals are addicted to their negative feelings. Just as many drinking people place little value on physical sobriety and never get sober, so too, many of us place little value on our emotional sobriety and never get comfortable.

He says there are a total of 54 negative emotions such as fear, anger, depression, resentment, loneliness, etc., and he claims that every one of them is based on blame. Furthermore, he insists that anyone can eliminate all 54 negative emotions from their lives by accepting full responsibility for their feelings and thereby no longer blaming any other person or situation for how they feel.

Only we can decide how important emotional independence and emotional sobriety are, and what we are willing to do to obtain and maintain them.

No matter what label we give the feeling, we have willingly put ourselves in the victim role, and have given the person or situation that wronged us control over our feelings, our serenity, our emotional sobriety, and, if we are alcoholic, possibly even our physical sobriety. The seeming pleasure of holding a resentment isn't worth all that.

Resentments contain a great deal of energy—enough to lead to war, murder and suicide.

Fox insists that, as long as we harbor a resentment toward any other person, we should not say the Lord's Prayer. We should not ask God to, "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us," because, by doing so, we ask God to feel toward us and to treat us the way we feel toward and treat those we resent.

He talks about the total destructiveness of resentments and the way in which they spiritually chain us to the person we dislike. Finally, he describes the actual process of forgiveness.

Add the fact that we so-called normal people frequently allow other people and situations to control our emotions (and thereby our thinking and behavior), and the difference between us and them begins to blur.

In my mind, people and situations "drove me to drink." Once I became sober, I had to learn to handle my emotions so these same people and situations could no longer do this to me.