Quotes About Emotions

Therefore the wise are guided by what they feel and not by what they see, Letting go of that and choosing this. —12

Your happiness is more of a blessing than your pain.

No fue el acto lo que te hirió, sino cómo lo interpretaste. Del mismo modo que elegiste una interpretación que te hizo sufrir, también puedes elegir una que te cure. «Puedo elegir cambiar todos los pensamientos que me causan dolor» (L, Lección 284). A

Love is natural. Cynicism is learned. Come home.

When something sucks, it saps your energy and undermines the quality of your life. It makes you feel smaller and wish you hadn't participated.

It takes a lot less work to feel good than it does to feel bad.

When love and fear meet, only love remains.

Si te centras en los momentos dolorosos, creas un pasado doloroso que arrastras al presente. Cuando te centras en los momentos felices, creas un pasado feliz y experimentas paz en el presente.

You stink of humanity,' he murmured, 'but I'll love you just the same.

I've never known a storyteller who was unhappy when telling stories.

There are few drugs, Clothahump mused, that can numb both the heart and the mind. Among them grief is the most powerful.

You smile too much, Rey.

One could get mad at one's neighbor, competitor, or spouse as easily here as on any other settled world. It was just harder to stay quite as mad, with the sun beaming down beneficently, the beach so close, and pleasant woods and lakes beckoning at every turn as soon as one left the city behind.

A series of moans came from the Wookiee. Then he turned—and sat down. In the copilot's seat. Rey felt herself tearing up. "You're serious, aren't you?

The central idea in this book is that highly aroused, negative emotion—dysregulated emotion—is the core problem for high-conflict couples and that there are specific skills partners can learn to manage their emotions effectively, which in turn makes effective communication (accurate expression followed by understanding and validation) possible.

And, finally, how others respond to us—particularly people we are close to—shapes the direction of our emotion in very important ways. Certain responses, such as understanding and validating our experience, soothe our frayed emotional edges, but others, such as criticizing or invalidating our experience, are like salt in an open wound in our hearts.

Thus, being dysregulated is not the same as being upset. You can be upset and still be quite able to make effective decisions, hold your tongue, or otherwise "control" yourself—manage to act in ways that help you achieve a better relationship, a better life, rather than simply escaping an unpleasant (or even awful) situation by doing something that hurts the other person, escalates the conflict, or, in general, makes things worse in the long run.

Conversely, a person with low emotional sensitivity can sometimes have a really hard time intuitively understanding what another person is feeling. This person may need to have a lot more explaining and more direct and specific requests in order to be emotionally supportive and responsive. Low emotional sensitivity can leave a spouse or partner feeling misunderstood or even lead to falsely (but understandably) believing that the other person doesn't care about him or her.

Thus, big reactions (high reactivity) can communicate more clearly what a person is feeling, but also can result in the person sometimes reacting too quickly, getting upset or even dysregulated before all the information has become available. This can sometimes be counterproductive, of course: if reactivity had been lower, the person's response might have been quite different and more productive.

if we are able to describe the situation, what we want, what is happening, and legitimize the emotional process even when we do not like it, typically our emotional arousal will start the return toward a lower state of emotional upset and eventually back to normal emotional arousal

This land, like so much of the French countryside, was a painting, but Mercier felt his heart touched with melancholy and realized, not for the first time, that beautiful places were hard on lonely people.

We are afflicted with a darkness of the soul and fall in love with our pain.

How do you explain to someone else why a thing matters to you if it doesn't matter to them? How can you put into words how a book slips inside of you and becomes a part of you so much that your life feels empty without it?

He saw that first love had come with a bundle of other firsts, which he took hold of like a wonderful but worrying bouquet.