Quotes About Mindset

Owners focus on what they want. Victims focus on what they fear. And both positions are pure internal invention

Normally, a view of the world is nothing more than a set of beliefs, a way to freeze the world in our minds. But this can never match Reality, simply because the world isn't frozen. Nevertheless we carry on as though the way we've frozen it in our minds is the way it actually is.

When we latch on to an identity, it's easy to take offence. But we offend ourselves. We lock ourselves into very rigid ways of seeing and thinking and reacting.

Reality is not going to change with your perception of it.

When we latch on to an identity, it's easy to take offense. But we offend ourselves. We lock ourselves into very rigid ways of seeing and thinking and feeling and reacting.

Lo primero que debe entender es que usted está demasiado inclinado a creer que su negocio triunfará.

No se enamore de sus propias expectativas optimistas.

Los propietarios que dicen tenerlo todo «aquí en mi cabeza» rara vez tienen capacidad para edificar un negocio.

It's not what we call ourselves that matters, it's the attitude we bring and the skills we can contribute.

Plan to the extent that feels right to you at a particular time in your life, but always be open to serendipity.

He never complicates a desire by overthinking it, unlike Mirabelle, who spins a cocoon around an idea until it is immobile.

Mirabelle is not sparkling tonight, because she works only in gears, and tonight she is in the wrong gear. Third gear is her scholarly, perspicacious, witty self; second gear is her happy, giddy, childish self; and first gear is her complaining, helpless, unmotivated self. Tonight she is somewhere midshift, between helpless and childish.

But, in fact, the self-help movement still divides, roughly, into two camps. There is Empowerment—broadly speaking, the idea that you are fully responsible for all you do, good and bad. And, in contrast, there is Victimization, which sells the idea that you are not responsible for what you do (at least not the bad things). Victimization and Empowerment represent the yin and the yang of the self-help movement.

If we are afraid of being rejected by others, we see signs of imminent rejection everywhere. We know that buying into that fear will not liberate us, but the possibility of rejection is so fear-inducing that it seems like a violation of basic logic not to focus on it.

People whose cognitions fuse are likely to ignore direct experience and become relatively oblivious to environmental influences.

The problem with problem solving is that it is a mode of mind that does not know when to stop.

To what extent does the client live in a world of "musts" and "shoulds" and "can'ts"? To what extent does the client live in a world of well-rehearsed excuses for why things are as they are—a world in which change is either impossible or for a time other than right now?

When we've adopted behavior because we think it helps us avoid emotional pain, whether we're aware of that thinking or not, change is challenging.

Charlie, we accept the love we think we deserve

Attack life, it's going to kill you anyway.

Our Behaviour is a function of our decisions, not our conditions

Most people are too busy to rethink the way they think—or to even spend much time thinking at all.

second lesson to be drawn from Kobayashi's success has to do with the limits that we accept, or refuse

is a systematic means of describing how people make decisions and how they change their minds;