Quotes About Mindset

The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" (shame) and "I did something bad" (guilt). Shame is about who we are and guilt is about our behaviors.

Gratitude, therefore, emerged from the data as the antidote to foreboding joy.

The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" (shame) and "I did something bad" (guilt).

When all that binds us is what we believe rather than who we are, changing our mind or challenging the collective ideology is risky.

hope is not an emotion; it's a way of thinking or a cognitive process.

If creativity is seen as a luxury or something we do when we have spare time, it will never be cultivated.

Rather than risking feeling disappointed, they're choosing to live disappointed.

Hope is learned!

We develop a hopeful mind-set when we understand that some worthy endeavors will be difficult and time consuming and not enjoyable at all. Hope also requires us to understand that just because the process of reaching a goal happens to be fun, fast, and easy doesn't mean that it has less value than a difficult goal.

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced

The new cultural belief that everything should be fun, fast, and easy is inconsistent with hopeful thinking. It also sets us up for hopelessness.

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

in this perception-driven world, the big question is always: Are you setting goals and expectations that are completely outside of your control?

If we find ourselves addressing the same problematic behaviors over and over, we may need to dig deeper to the thinking and feeling driving those behaviors.

On the inside I was really thinking, Who has time for painting and scrapbooking and photography when the real work of achieving and accomplishing needs to be done?

Harriet Lerner says, "Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

The counterapproach to living in scarcity is not about abundance. In fact, I think abundance and scarcity are two sides of the same coin. The opposite of "never enough" isn't abundance or "more than you could ever imagine." The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness. As I explained in the Introduction, there are many

Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress.

Perfection is about the furthest thing in the world from badassery.

Perfectionism is not the key to success.

As Anne Lamott said, "Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.

Anxiety and excitement feel the same, but how we interpret and label them can determine how we experience them.

The same way you feel a muscle "burn" when it's being strengthened, the brain needs to feel some discomfort when it's learning. Your mind might hurt for a while—but that's a good thing.

no matter how big you think your problems are, someone else's problems could always be bigger, which makes yours relatively small!