Quotes About Influence

I once heard Anne Lamott say, "Help is the sunny side of control." Yes

when it comes to our sense of love, belonging, and worthiness, we are most radically shaped by our families of origin — what we hear, what we are told, and perhaps most importantly, how we observe our parents engaging with the world.

The best definition of power comes from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. He described power as the ability to achieve our purpose and to effect change.

The best definition of power comes from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. He described power as the ability to achieve our purpose and to effect change. If we question our need for power, think about this: How do you feel when you believe that you are powerless to change something in your life? Powerlessness is dangerous.

Perfectionism never happens in a vacuum. It touches everyone around us. We pass it down to our children, we infect our workplace with impossible expectations, and it's suffocating for our friends and families. Thankfully, compassion also spreads quickly. When we're kind to ourselves, we create a reservoir of compassion that we can extend to others. Our children learn how to be self-compassionate by watching us, and the people around us feel free to be authentic and connected.

power-over as working like this: "I will define who you are and then I'll make you believe that's your own definition." This chilling explanation

Real power is basically the ability to change something if you want to change it. It's the ability to make change happen. Real power is unlimited—we don't need to fight over it because there is plenty to go around. And the great thing about real power is our ability to create it. Real power doesn't force us to take it away from others—it's something we create and build with others. When we talk about

Joseph Chilton Pearce writes, "What we are teaches the child more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become.

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

in this perception-driven world, the big question is always: Are you setting goals and expectations that are completely outside of your control?

Every time we choose courage, we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver.

Realizing that outside factors play a role in our struggles can give us a different lens on our experience.

Luther King Jr. He described power as the ability to effect change. If we question our need for power, think about this: How do you feel when you believe that you are powerless to change something in your life?

Harriet Lerner says, "Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

What we are teaches the child more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become.

we just can't fill a self-worth gap by leading and using power over people,

Perfectionism never happens in a vacuum. It touches everyone around us. We pass it down to our children, we infect our workplace with impossible expectations, and it's suffocating for our friends and families.

Get Inspired: I'm inspired by everyone who shares their work and opinions with the world. Courage is contagious. My friend Katherine Center says, "You have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs." 3

We feel admiration when someone's abilities, accomplishments, or character inspires us, or when we see something else that inspires us, like art or nature. Interestingly, admiration often leads to us wanting to improve ourselves. It doesn't, however, make us want to be like the person or thing we admire—we just want to be better versions of ourselves.

We need to be the adults we want our children to be.

We feel admiration when someone's abilities, accomplishments, or character inspires us, or when we see something else that inspires us, like art or nature. Interestingly, admiration often leads to us wanting to improve ourselves.

We maintain our prized stoicism in front of the people we want to impress or influence, but the second we're around people over whom we have emotional, financial, or physical power, we explode.

Leaders must care for and be connected to the people they lead.

Again, no matter what you do, you can't control other people's responses.