Quotes About Self-worth

We may often be of more consequence in our own eyes than in the eyes of our neighbours.

We tend to underestimate the small things about ourselves that are often our most valuable attributes.

And when someone else speaks your name you feel pleased. You feel wanted. You feel there. Alive. Even if they're saying your name with dislike, at least you know you're you, that you exist.

You're the perfect girl', he said, rubbing his chin. 'You expect nothing.

It has become routine to assume that the rewards of life are public and that our lives can be measured by how we are seen rather than what we do.

The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.

What is so frightening is the extent to which we may idealize others when we have such trouble tolerating ourselves

It's hard loving those who don't much like themselves: If you're so great, why would you think I'm so great.

We are not always humiliated by failing at things; we are humiliated only if we first invest our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement, and then do not reach it.

We should forever forswear the masochistic process wherein we seek another's approval before we have even asked ourselves whether that person's views deserve to be listened to.

Failure is becoming someone who needs others to fail.

Belittling others is no pastime for those convinced of their own standing. There is terror behind haughtiness. It takes a punishing impression of our own inferiority to leave others feeling that they aren't good enough for us.

It follows that the more people we take to be our equals and compare ourselves to, the more people there will be to envy.

Rather than a tale of greed, the history of luxury could more accurately be read as a record of emotional trauma. It is the legacy of those who have felt pressured by the disdain of others to add an extraordinary amount to their bare selves in order to signal that they too may lay a claim to love.

Rejection hurts so much because we take it as a damning judgement passed not merely on our physical appeal but on our entire selves, and by extension (at this stage we're crying into our pillow, as something by Bach or Leonard Cohen plays on the stereo) on our very right to exist. 2.

What dangers are posed by those touchingly insecure men who, unsure of their own powers of attraction, need to keep finding out whether they are acceptable to others.

What matters is not what we seem to a random group, but what we know we are. In Schopenhauer's words: 'Every reproach can hurt only to the extent that it hits the mark. Whoever actually knows that he does not deserve a reproach can and will confidently treat it with contempt.

Ce pericole produc acei b?rbaÈ›i înduio??tor de nesiguri care, necunoscându-È™i propria for?? de atracÈ›ie, au nevoie s? afle mereu dac? sunt acceptabili pentru alte persoane!

În aceast? lume, respectul de sine depinde integral de ceea ce ne mân? de la spate s? fm sau s? facem.

There is terror behind haughtiness. It takes a punishing impression of our own inferiority to leave others feeling that they aren't good enough for us.

The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.

If in order to love, we must believe that the beloved surpasses us in some way, does not a cruel paradox emerge when we witness this love returned? 'If s/he really is so wonderful, how could s/he could love someone like me?' 2.

It is easy to get upset about the deteriorating state of one's body, but there are other ways to excel and impress than via one's legs.

if we are prone to burst into tears after only a few harsh words about our character or achievements, it may be because the approval of others forms an essential part of our capacity to believe that we are right.