Quotes About Insecurity

Stanley flipped up the toilet lid and took a long piss, terrified that he might spring a leak and hit himself in the eye.

Your ego wants to conceal your insecurity and your fear. And that's why it can be such an unwelcome intrusion when we're trying to create or perform. You need your human frailty to be at least somewhat visible if you want to connect on an emotional level

Allowing something you've created to be undermined to a point where you can no longer believe in it or stand behind it feels suicidal to me.

It can be very daunting and upsetting when people realize that others are more talented than they are. But you have to work through that. You can't quit because there's a Beyoncé in the world.

As long as we lean on anything outside ourselves for support, we are going to be insecure. Most of us try to find support by leaning on all sorts of things - gold, books, learning, sensory stimulation - and if these things are taken away, we fall over. To the extent that we are dependent on these external supports, we grow weaker and more liable to upsets and misfortune.

You know how sometimes you lie in bed at night and think, "What if the law of gravity just wears out and lets go and I drift into space?" Does that ever make you anxious?

Finally, being sensitive to the discomfort, disapproval, or anger of others probably made you quick to follow every rule as perfectly as possible, afraid to make a mistake.

Above all is the NPD person's need for control, particularly in close relationships.

Ya sabes que tengo miedo y que por eso traiciono...

Some adults abused as children feel pressure to outperform everybody else. They believe that they must try harder and work harder because they are not as good. They may feel driven and obsessed.

Other adults abused as children do the opposite: they believe they can accomplish nothing, so they don't try. They hold themselves back from taking chances because it is safer. Since success often makes one more important and visible to others, and since visibility is associated with being hurt, success means danger.

The trouble is, I am not at peace with myself; I am not always something, and if for once I am something, I pay for it by being nothing for months on end.' —Kafka, quoted by Canetti

the torturer scores a victory over his victim when the latter, in the grip of doubt, begins to torture himself.

A little self-hatred keeps a person interesting

Debemos comprender que sólo existen dos miedos: el miedo a caerse y el miedo al ruido. Todos los otros miedos han sido impuestos poco a poco en nuestra infancia por los adultos, pues proyectaban sobre nosotros sus propios miedos y los transmitían así de generación en generación

People who don't feel cared for are not always comfortable being cared for.

She doesn't exactly know why kids don't like her. She's good-looking enough. She has a sense of humor. She's not dumb. She guesses it's because they can sense how much she needs them. They are like kids in a circle holding sticks, picking on the weak thing. It is in people, to be entertained by cruelty.

People who don't feel cared for are not always comfortable being cared for.

I think the reason we're cruel sometimes is that we're afraid we're going to like something.

What Maddy has come to believe is that certain life circumstances make for people who walk with a psychic limp for all of their days. Never mind the progress they seem to make, peel back a few delicate layers and there it is: a stubborn doubting of worth; an inability to stand with conviction behind anything without wondering if they should be standing there at all; a sense that if they move in this direction, it's wrong; and if they move in that direction, that's wrong, too.

I look in the mirror now, and even if I lost weight, there's just...Theres' nothing I can do. It's over. My bodyness. My attractiveness in my body. I can diet forever but it will never make me like I was.

I am crippled in love relationships by fear, by defense, by doubt, by my own lack of self-regard. It makes me constantly want to abandon ship.

Deep inside is a voice wanting to taunt her, to tell her she is undeserving of it, to not trust it because it won't last, good things never last. Or it tells her she will fuck up and lose everything. But she's gotten better at tuning that voice out.

I don't know. It depends on the day. Depends on the hour of the day...I don't really know if I really want to do that. I think I do and then I think I don't. It makes me really nervous to think about really doing it.