Quotes About Insecurity

There is terror behind haughtiness. It takes a punishing impression of our own inferiority to leave others feeling that they aren't good enough for us.

The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.

If in order to love, we must believe that the beloved surpasses us in some way, does not a cruel paradox emerge when we witness this love returned? 'If s/he really is so wonderful, how could s/he could love someone like me?' 2.

The success of any relationship should be determined not just by how happy a couple are to be together, but by how worried each partner would be about not being in a relationship at all.

if we are prone to burst into tears after only a few harsh words about our character or achievements, it may be because the approval of others forms an essential part of our capacity to believe that we are right.

the obstacle to our good development is not usually arrogance, but a lack of confidence.

Oui, elle voulait avoir un enfant clair parce que cela représentait a l'époque une sorte de supériorité, c'était bête, mais c'était une part de notre complexe vis-a-vis des Blancs, tout ce qui était blanc était meilleur, tout ce qui était noir était maudit, sans avenir, sans lendemain

People ho need to be right do so because they fundamentally feel wrong.

El ego se siente amenazado por la felicidad porque piensa que si eres demasiado feliz él se quedará sin trabajo. De modo que si ve que empiezas a salir de la miseria, vuelve a hundirte

It's not your job to decide whether people should think you're important or not, hey? Huh? What others think of us is none of our business. Maybe you're more important than you give yourself credit for. This could be God's way of showing you something you should know but don't.

It never occurred to me that she might travel from one man to the next to avoid being abandoned. Or to avoid being worshiped like a goddess, a worship she both relished and despised.

When men are ruled by fear, they strive to prevent the very changes that will abate it.

For we fear not only the loss of our possessions, but the loss of our superiority and the loss of our whiteness. Some say it is true that crime is bad, but would this not be worse? Is it not better to hold what we have, and to pay the price of it with fear?

los celos, cansados de ser feroces, vuelven a la matriz de la que alguna vez los desterró el rencor: la matriz del desamparo.

What are men? Children who doubt.

He was a nobody. One of those shy kids who turned into social invalids when that first blast of adolescence hit, meekly accepted their fate, and became invisible.

Few kids seek to learn a skill specifically designed to impress people unless they feel less than impressive themselves.

You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realise how seldom they do.

A final piece of advice: recognise and beware the toxic blend of low self-esteem and grandiose self-regard known only to the truly damned.

The desire to impress is an efficient means of bringing out ones least impressive qualities.

People hate to see you on high vibes doing something positive or something you love, especially if you're doing it better than them or the people they prop up with their support. -MillYentei

The downside to being better than everyone is that people seem to think you are pretentious.

This imagined notion of who we are and how others are supposed to see us, is called aham. Aham constantly seek validation from external world. When that is not forthcoming it becomes insecure. Aham makes humans accumulate things; through things we hope people will look upon us as we imagine ourselves. That is why people display their wealth & their knowledge & their power.Aham yearns to be seen.

Leaders often equate themselves with lions, and indulge their desire to dominate when, in fact, the point of leadership is to be secure enough to outgrow the lion within us, and enable and empower those around us. But this is not easy, as anxiety overpowers the best of leaders.