Quotes About Insecurity

I used to be very scared of silence because I felt it was my responsibility to keep people occupied. That definitely spawns from an insecurity in myself. When people aren't enjoying themselves, when I'm involved, it somehow comes back to it being my fault. But I do want people to have a good time.

People ask me, 'What do you do?' And I tell them I'm a writer, but always with the silent reservation, 'I am, of course, not really a writer. Hemingway was a writer.'

It's daunting doing something you haven't done before - you feel silly; you feel like a bit of an idiot.

There are a lot of people across the country, for as silly as this sounds, who obsess about hair loss.

Every time you hear someone read your book and liked your book, you're never sure whether that's going to follow with a similar remark from someone else. Perhaps I have low expectations, but whenever I hear someone say, 'I liked your book,' I don't know if it's going to happen again.

The creative people I admire seem to share many characteristics: A fierce restlessness. Healthy cynicism. A real world perspective. An ability to simplify. Restraint. Patience. A genuine balance of confidence and insecurity. And most importantly, humanity.

If you find yourself criticizing other people, you're probably doing it out of Resistance. When we see others beginning to live their authentic selves, it drives us crazy if we have not lived out our own.

The critic hates most that which he would have done himself if he had had the guts.

Remember, Resistance wants us to cede sovereignty to others. It wants us to stake our self-worth, our identity, our reason-for-being, on the response of others to our work. Resistance knows we can't take this. No one can.

It's only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.

A child has no trouble believing the unvelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. It's only you and I, with our big brains and tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.

it. If you find yourself asking yourself (and your friends), Am I really a writer? Am I really an artist? chances are you are.

The amateur is often unkind or insensitive to others, but she saves her most exquisite cruelty for herself.

Ijust want to be a regular guy. I want the crazy shit in my head to stop. I want to have a job, just a simple job that a regular guy can do, with a place to stay, maybe meet a nice girl someday. How did I get to be this person I am, who can't do anything, who lives in fear twenty-four hours a day, possesses no skills and no sense of what he wants or how, even if he did know, he could get there?

What are you, crazy, Steve? Do you imagine anybody is gonna be interested in these lame-ass stories from your life? They are so ordinary! You are so ordinary. Readers are going to laugh you off the page. Whatever credibility you've built up over the years will go straight into the toilet. Stop right now before you totally humiliate yourself!

Creating soap opera in our lives is a symptom of Resistance.

Resistance feeds on fear. We experience Resistance as fear. But fear of what? Fear

Rejection brings out the worst in people. Love and acceptance bring out the best.

When I'm with you, I don't feel self-conscious or like I'm crippled or ugly. I don't know how you do that, but it's nice.

In her presence, I felt as dainty and feminine as a side of beef. When I opened my mouth, I was worried I would moo.

I'm smart 1 day out of 30, but I never know which day it will be so I have to sit patiently, feeling like an ignoramus most of the time.

Maybe there is something deeply wrong with me," Carol tells me. "It's just like my mom used to say, I am too difficult to love.

when you feel pain from your raw spot, are there ghosts standing behind your lover?

These strategies for dealing with the fear of losing connection are unconscious, and they work, at least in the beginning. But as distressed partners resort to them more and more, they set up vicious spirals of insecurity that only push them further and further apart. More and more interactions occur in which neither partner feels safe, both become defensive, and each is left assuming the very worst about each other and their relationship.