Quotes About Insecurity

High achievement is often the result of being driven by toxic shame. Feeling flawed and defective on the inside, I had to prove I was okay by being exceptional on the outside. Everything I did was based on getting authenticated on the outside. My good feelings depended upon achievement.

Having lost heart, they believe they must manipulate in order to get their needs met.

Firestone came to the conclusion that "appraisals and evaluations from others, when they validate a person's distorted view of himself, tend to arouse an obsessive thought process." Since we are already tortured by our own critical thoughts and self-attacks, we feel very threatened whenever others attack us the same way.

Feelings of excitement and curiosity become bound in shame, and the child's courage and enthusiasm are severely limited. Toxic shame takes on the face of apathy or cowardice at this stage. Describing the impact of her father's incest, the poet Mary Oliver writes in her poem "Rage": "And you see how the child grows—timidly, crouching in corners.

A shame-based person will guard against exposing his inner self to others, but more significantly, he will guard against exposing himself to himself.

Out of all the calls taken, nearly half—I think they say forty-five percent—are from people who are afraid someone else knows data that they don't and is gaining an unfair advantage by it. For all the claims one hears about the liberating impact of the data-net, the truth is that it's wished on most of us a brand-new reason for paranoia.

By almost every account he's a fine young man. I'm simply trying to figure out why I should care that he's three centimeters taller than he was in May.

People who do not believe in themselves have trouble believing in others.

Think about a rubber band. It is totally useless unless it is stretched. When insecurity keeps us from stretching and growing, we end up with a life that is as unexciting and useless as a limp rubber band. Confidence

Those who lack humility are dogmatic and egotistical. That masks a deep sense of insecurity.

Perfectionists can rarely affirm themselves; therefore, it's very difficult for them to affirm others.

If you worry about what other people think of you, it's because you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own.

But perhaps the biggest interruption coming from your inside is caused by your worrying about making a mistake.

He had never been a man who attracted women, and he exaggerated their coldness towards him. Indeed in regard to the love of women he had a physical humility that was almost a mania. One of the strongest holds that Mary had over him was the simple fact that she, a sweet-looking, intellectual girl, could be in love with him at all! Secretly John regarded himself as the most unlovable human creature then living in Glastonbury.

It's hard growing up in a world where you never feel like you're good enough.

The scary thing about falling for someone is you don't know weather they will stay or just leave at any given time.

Sometimes no matter how secure you are in someones arms and no matter how tightly you hold this persons hand, you'll find yourself falling dangerously fast in love with someone else.

I'm afraid to lose you and you're not even mine.

You don't like when I get jealous, so you must wanting me to stopping caring about us?

Maybe you only love him because you fear that he just might be the only one that will ever love you.

Dating a girl with a guy best friend is never easy.

Its like were scared to lose what we dont even really have.

It's not what you do for me on Valentine's Day that matters but the amount of jealousy it provokes in others.

No, I'm not jealous of your new girlfriend. I feel sorry for her, because she's dating an unfaithful selfish asshole.