Quotes About Parenting

However painful the process of leaving home, for parents and for children, the really frightening thing for both would be the prospect of the child never leaving home.

I take my children everywhere, but they always find their way back home.

Never raise your hand to your children; it leaves your midsection unprotected.

There is no moral reason for government at any level to prevent the children of engaged and invested Americans of any race, ethnic group, or income level from reaping the full rewards of their talents and ambitions, nor interfering with parents' best efforts to do what they deem best for their children.

I hope you grow up to be as good a mother as your father

Parents need to learn when to call a doctor, and what they can do, without a doctor's intervention, to reinforce the body's ability to heal itself.

Many people today have grown up believing that they are entitled to a good time, that that's what life is all about. They put their pleasures ahead of their children, then feel guilty and become placating slaves to the children to make up for it.

Indeed, an honest acceptance of this fact would enable both parties to cope with reality without the additional defensive pressure. With a diminution of this pressure and the subsequent relaxation for both parent and child, they may even come to have genuine regard and loving feelings toward one another.

Parents in their dishonesty manipulate their children and hide their real feelings, and of course their children learn early to manipulate back.

From my interaction with this man and my knowledge of Marilyn's childish manipulations, I knew that he had been provoked into accepting his wife's view of men and of himself as being angry and harsh. His boys were growing up to believe that because they were male, they, too, were mean and unfeeling.

It is both the intention and the capability (love-food) that is necessary to sustain a small person in growth toward maturity. Parental mistreatment, that is, the absence of parental love, causes the child psychic pain. These traumatic episodes are later partially or totally repressed, but the scars of these early wounds play a significant part in the everyday life

An honest, unloving father or mother will do far less damage to his or her child than a role-playing, "loving" parent. A rejecting and unloving parent will cause a child pain, but a dishonestly rejecting parent causes the child pain and makes him or her feel "crazy.

This type of parent causes the child to become unsure of the ability to think and perceive correctly and ultimately causes the son or daughter to develop symptoms of psychological illness.

When parents cannot bear to know that they are rejecting their children, they systematically cut off the children's opportunity to express themselves. Hiding the truth forces the children to bury their pain, which interferes with the possibility of healing.

Many children do not feel love for their parents either. After they have been damaged in their early years, they tend to have a self-centered, exploitive interest but no real feeling for their parents as people. Because their original affectionate feeling toward their parents was rejected, they become withholding and inward.

When children imagine themselves as one with their parent to protect against the feelings of hurt, pain, and rejection from that parent, they also incorporate the parental attitudes and behaviors that are causing them distress. In this manifestation of the fantasy bond, children parent themselves in the same destructive ways their parents did.

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the tension introduced by covering up the absence of love further injures the child. Because they cannot bear to know that they are rejecting of their children, many parents systematically cut off the children's opportunity to develop and cure themselves of their pain.

Sometimes, because of my success, I am afraid that I was not a good father. With the first two I was too strong, and with the other three I was too weak.

In choosing a man to help raise her children, a woman is only secondarily impressed by looks, whereas in choosing a short-term partner for sex, looks are much more important.

In choosing a man or men with whom to share her life, a woman has two major issues to consider. On the one hand, she needs a man who can help her raise her children. On the other, she needs genes that in combination with her own will produce attractive, fertile and successful children.

Often, a woman is already pregnant when she settles down with a long-term partner, and occasionally this partner is not the father of her child. Sometimes he knows this and takes on the woman and her child anyway, for reasons we have discussed, but sometimes he doesn't know. The woman is least likely to be unfaithful in the weeks or months preceding the conception of her second child. Subsequent children, however, are more and more likely to be the product of infidelity.

It does appear that in some other cultures the work of motherhood is not left entirely up to one person the way it is here, so a baby can be handed around to many relatives, which gives the mother some blessed relief. Our society tends to elevate pregnancy and childbirth to unrealistic romantic heights then leave women on their own to struggle with the task, making them wonder what they are doing wrong when at times it all seems too much.

It's not so much that I mind listening to her stories. Everybody likes to have an audience - that's why most people have kids, isn't it?