Quotes About Family

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Balance is the core of health. We feel and function best when our body's systems are in balance, and when we're in balance with friends, family, community, and nature.

This is incredibly unlike our modern world. We expect a single working mother to be the one to throw the baseball with her eight-year-old, rock the newborn, read to the three-year-old, and, by the way, cook a nutritious meal, help with homework, do the laundry, get everyone to bed, then wake up and get them all ready for childcare and school so she can go work all day, only to rush home to do it all again. All alone.

You're not meant to raise children isolated and alone.

This is one of the central problems in our society; we have too many parents caring for children with inadequate supports.

As one family therapist famously put it, we tend to prefer the "certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty.

what works best is anything that increases the quality and number of relationships in the child's life.

Colonization, slavery, the U.S. reservation system, Canada's Residential Schools, Australia's Stolen Generation—these were so destructive across so many generations because they intentionally destroyed the family and cultural bonds that keep a people connected.

Dissociation as a coping mechanism will happen more commonly when the individual feels that a threatening situation is inescapable. If you're a child and your family has a lot of conflict, you don't have many options. You can't say, "Hey, I'm moving out." Very young children can't fight or flee. They have to stay.

A menudo sucede que, cuando los padres ven que las cosas parecen ir bien, se dejan desmotivar por el precio y los inconvenientes de la terapia. Como Amber «estaba fenomenal», su madre no la presionó cuando se resistió a encontrar un nuevo terapeuta.

A person's capacity to connect, to be regulating and regulated, to reward and be rewarded, is the glue that keeps families and communities together.

your history of relational health-your connectedness to family, community, and culture-is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity

Our major finding is that your history of relational health—your connectedness to family, community, and culture—is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity

Is fear transmissible from generation to generation? Can the fearfulness of a parent be transmitted to the child? -the answer is an empathic yes.

chair under the doorknob of her bedroom door and found some cans to put around the door. The next morning she tied those cans together and hung them from the door. And, every night for the rest of my days living with my grandmother, the cans were on the door and the chair was up under the knob. I would try to sleep while listening to make sure the cans didn't move.

The sense of self informs every relationship or decision we make as we move through life. And when children don't feel respected by the decisions of their parents, their beliefs about how they are valued are crushed.

Children, especially, are very contagious to the emotions of the people around them. Think of you and your grandmother in the story you just shared. You felt fear. Her fear was passed to you—you "caught" her fear and carried it into your generation.

children don't feel respected by the decisions of their parents, their beliefs about how they are valued are crushed.

to someone in the next generation. There is transgenerational transmission—something is passed on to the next generation.

when children don't feel respected by the decisions of their parents, their beliefs about how they are valued are crushed.

Yes! How were you loved—it makes all the difference. In all the conversations I've had, my experience has been that dysfunction shows up in direct proportion to how you were or were not loved.

Think of the diversity within a small multifamily, multigenerational clan. Children growing up had numerous adults and older children who could model, teach, nurture, discipline, and care for them. Each person in the clan had a unique set of strengths—the right person at the right time. No single person was expected to provide all of the emotional, social, physical, or cognitive needs of the developing child.

This requires the capacity to forgive, to be patient. Mature human interactions involve efforts to understand people who are different from you. But if we don't have family meals, don't go out with friends for long, in-person conversations, and communicate only via text or Twitter, then we can't create that positive, healthy back-and-forth pattern of human connection.