Quotes About Support

You get married to have an ally against your family.

Dad is bent over me, fixing my wooden leg with a socket wrench.

Maybe we're supposed to save each other.

There was no one to call, no friends who weren't also connected to Jen. I thought about calling my mother, but my father was in a coma and she had enough to deal with. *My life was in a free fall, and there was nowhere to turn. A cold sense of desolation lodged itself somewhere in the base of my throat, and suddenly I was no longer enraged or devastated, but terrified of the immense, throbbing loneliness that was only now closing like a vise on my internal organs.*

We get married to have an ally against our family.

This happens a lot, I've noticed. People form shiva alliances, arriving together to eliminate the risk of a one-on-one with the bereaved.

that's how she stays with you forever, by making sure you're okay after she's gone. It's like emotional life insurance.

You get married to have an ally against your family, and now I'm heading into the trenches alone.

You didn't invent grief. My shrink once told me that." "Really? Your shrink told you about me?

You OK?" she says, raising her eyebrows. "You're teetering." He nods and steadies himself against the wall. "Aren't we all," he says.

Grief can be catered just like anything else.

Order is the stability of your marriage. It's buttressed by the traditions of the past and by your expectations-grounded, often invisibly, in those traditions. Chaos is that stability crumbling under your feet when you discover your partner's infidelity. Chaos is the experience of reeling unbound and unsupported through space when your guiding routines and traditions collapse.

It's appropriate and praiseworthy to associate with people whose lives would be improved if they saw your life improve.

It is necessary to be strong in the face of death, because death is intrinsic to life. It is for this reason that I tell my students: aim to be the person at your father's funeral that everyone, in their grief and misery, can rely on. There's a worthy and noble ambition: strength in the face of adversity.

We outsource the problem of sanity. People remain mentally healthy not merely because of the integrity of their own minds, but because they are constantly being reminded how to think, act, and speak by those around them.

There are so many ways that things can fall apart, or fail to work altogether, and it is always wounded people who are holding it together

Treat yourself like you would someone you're responsible for helping.

people organize their brains with conversation. If they don't have anyone to tell their story to, they lose their minds.

There is no evidence that the importance of friendship declines in any manner with age.

If you surround yourself with people who support your upward aim, they will not tolerate your cynicism and destructiveness. They will instead encourage you when you do good for yourself and others and punish you carefully when you do not.

begin by treating yourself as if you were someone you were responsible for helping.

You are not morally obliged to support someone who is making the world a worse place. Quite the opposite. You should choose people who want things to be better, not worse.

Friendship is a reciprocal arrangement. You are not morally obliged to support someone who is making the world a worse place. Quite the opposite. You should choose people who want things to be better, not worse. It's a good thing, not a selfish thing, to choose people who are good for you. It's appropriate and praiseworthy to associate with people whose lives would be improved if they saw your life improve.

MAKE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO WANT THE BEST FOR YOU