Quotes About Support

world that's not enough. A strong connection to community is as important today as it was thousands of years ago. The tragedy of the modern world is that community like this is harder and harder to find.

It's that we have changed our fundamental question from 'What's wrong with you?' to 'What happened to you?

When you're new to a community, having moved away from what's familiar, your brain is going to be continually trying to manage all the novelty. And that's very hard to do without any real relational anchors in the new environment. The relationships will grow, but it takes time. This is why people are most vulnerable in the first six months after major transitions—after leaving the safe, stable, and known behind to start building a new set of connections.

Even if it's a really nice, kind, respectful person entering the child's life, it takes a long time for the child to make sense of the shift and get back to a calm, regulated state.

Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes

Oprah: What if you don't have the resources to get a therapist? Dr. Perry: Great question. Most people who experience adversity and trauma do not have access to therapy, let alone a clinical team like I just described. But what we're learning is that having access to a number of invested, caring people is actually a better predictor of good outcomes following trauma than having access to a therapist.

This isn't to suggest that therapy isn't helpful, but therapy without "connectedness" is not very effective.

Dr. Perry: I think that's true. Even though we live in an amazing country filled with good people, I believe that collectively we're less resilient. Our ability as a people to tolerate stressors is diminishing because our connectedness is diminishing.

So when a single mom is living on a limited income, trying to manage four children, trying to be mother and father, and she feels overwhelmed or feels like it's impossible to do it all—it's because it is impossible.

father didn't even know about me until my mother sent him a birth announcement and asked for money to buy baby clothes.

Yes, it's best if you can simply be present. If you do use words, it's best to restate what they're saying; this is called reflective listening. You can't talk someone out of feeling angry, sad, or frustrated, but you can be a sponge and absorb their emotional intensity. If you stay regulated, ultimately they will "catch" your calm.

Connectedness has the power to counterbalance adversity.

Perry: This is one of the central problems in our society; we have too many parents caring for children with inadequate supports. The result is what you would expect. An overwhelmed, exhausted, dysregulated parent will have a hard time regulating a child consistently and predictably. This can impact the child in two really important ways.

The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.

one of the best ways to help someone else become calm and centered is to calm and center ourselves first- and then just pay attention.

Create a safe zone. Every parent quickly learns that every child—and every adult—handles conflict differently. Some push back when criticized, some turn inward, some break down in tears.

One of the best ways to demonstrate God's love is to listen to people.

Good relationships are the key to healing.

Schools are, first and foremost, about supporting, challenging and inspiring young people to learn.

I was always concerned with writing to my age at a particular moment. That was the way I would keep faith with the audience that supported me as I went along.

The best music... is essentially there to provide you something to face the world with.

We said we'd walk together baby come what may.That come the twilight should we lose our way.If as we're walkin a hand should slip free,I'll wait for you And should I fall behind,Wait for me.

The story I have told throughout my work life I could not have told as well without Clarence.

Let me in, I wanna be your friend, I wanna guard your dreams and visions.