Quotes About Support

Part of truly loving our kids, and giving them what they need, means offering them clear and consistent boundaries, creating predictable structure in their lives, as well as having high expectations for them.

An important take-home message is that it is vital to keep the lines of connection and communication open and to remember that we all—adolescents and adults—need to be members of a connected community.

As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.

Connection is about walking through the hard times with our children and being there for them when they're emotionally suffering, just like we would if they scraped their knee and were physically suffering.

Your job as a parent is not to prevent them from experiencing setbacks and failures, but to give them the tools and emotional resilience they need to weather life's storms, and then to walk beside them through those storms.

The healthy move to adulthood is toward interdependence, not complete "do-it-yourself" isolation.

No-Drama Discipline allows us to communicate to our children, "I'm with you. I've got your back. Even when you're at your worst and I don't like the way you're acting, I love you, and I'm here for you. I understand you're having a hard time, and I am here.

Trata a las personas como si fueran lo que tendrían que ser y las ayudarás a convertirse en lo que son capaces de ser».

Essentially, we want caregivers to begin to think of discipline as one of the most loving and nurturing things we can do for kids.

We are not meant to live in isolation, but are dependent on one another for emotional well-being.

the longitudinal research on child development clearly demonstrates that one of the very best predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, social and emotional development, leadership skills, meaningful relationships, and even academic and career success—is whether they developed security from having at least one person who showed up for them.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being." Adolescence is not a period of being "crazy" or "immature." It is an essential time of emotional intensity, social engagement, and creativity.

To put it simply, asking the why-what-how questions helps us remember who our kids are and what they need.

You can become the safe harbor for your own children that you never had as a child.

It means being there for your kids. It means being physically present, as well as providing a quality of presence. Provide it when you're meeting their needs; when you're expressing your love to them; when you're disciplining them; when you're laughing together; even when you're arguing with them.

So when children feel furious, dejected, ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed, or out of control in any other way, that's when we need to be there for them. Through connection, we can soothe their internal storm, help them calm down, and assist them in making better decisions

Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo?

Sin embargo, queremos enseñarles que la empatía consiste poco en dar consejos ni en encontrar el lado afirmativo de las cosas. Consiste más en escuchar, hacer compañía y compartir los sentimientos. Queremos enseñarles frases como: «Eso duele mucho» o «No sé qué decir, pero siento que haya pasado eso».

the moments you are just trying to survive are actually opportunities to help your child thrive.

Tina se contuvo. En lugar de eso, empleó la técnica de conectar y redirigir. Lo estrechó, le frotó la espalda y, con tono maternal, dijo: «A veces las cosas se ponen difíciles, ¿verdad que sí? Yo nunca te olvidaría. Siempre te tengo presente, y quiero que sepas en todo momento lo especial que eres para mí».

You can do your kids a lot of good simply by asking, "What are some ideas you have to make it better and solve this problem?" Given the chance once they're calm, kids will usually do the right thing, and learn in the process.

Aquí me tienes. Esto es así. Sé que es difícil, pero puedes hacerlo. Estoy contigo.»

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

spoiling has nothing to do with connecting with your child when he's upset or making bad choices. Remember, you can't spoil a child by giving him too much emotional connection, attention, physical affection, or love. When our children need us, we need to be there for them.