Quotes About Support

The more we discover our needs, the more we become aware that we cannot resolve them on our own. Nor can others, people like us. A sense of powerlessness accompanies every serious experience in our lives.

When they cry "Man overboard!" the oceanliner, as big as a house, stops all at once and the man they fish out with the ropes. But when a man's soul is overboard, when he drowns from horror and from desperation not even his own household stops but distances itself.

The elder members of the family never failed to marvel at the attitude of the kids, how Big Angel was a rolling laugh riot to them, arbiter of bad jokes, spiritual insight, ice cream money, and shelter when they were bounced out of their houses or were let out of jail or rehab or needed to come in off the streets at midnight.

Gregorio enseguida comprobó que la gente no tarda en convencerse de que lo que le conviene siempre que otra persona lo apoye en su razonamiento. O lo que es lo mismo: que dos opiniones solidarias forman una convicción.

enseguida comprobó que la gente no tarda en convencerse de lo que le conviene siempre que otra persona la apoye en su razonamiento. O lo que es lo mismo: que dos opiniones solidarias forman una convicción.

It's hard and sometimes it's scary. It still amazes my mother. I went home for Christmas one year and there were fans all over the front lawn, hoping to see me.

If you are aware of chronic or severe mistreatment and do not speak out against it, your silence communicates implicitly that you see nothing unacceptable taking place. Abusers interpret silence as approval, or at least as forgiveness. To abused women, meanwhile, the silence means that no one will help—just what her partner wants her to believe. Anyone who chooses to quietly look the other way therefore unwittingly becomes the abuser's ally.

Encourage the women in your life—your friends, sisters, mothers, daughters—to insist on dignity and respect, to have faith in themselves, to be proud. Expect boys and men to be respectful, kind, and responsible, and don't settle for less.

Addiction does not cause partner abuse, and recovery from addiction does not "cure" partner abuse.

The vast majority of women who say that they are being abused are telling the truth. I know this to be true because the abusers let their guard down with me, belying their denial.

One-on-one approaches to overcoming abuse work well only when the wider community pulls together to create an environment in which the victims are supported and the abusers held accountable.

Abused women aren't "codependent." It is abusers, not their partners, who create abusive relationships.

Genuine love means respecting the humanity of the other person, wanting what is best for him or her, and supporting the other person's self-esteem and independence. This kind of love is incompatible with abuse and coercion.

Kay Douglas's book is the most supportive, realistic, and practical guide for abused women that I have encountered. A woman with this book in her hands is on the path to a new life. The author really 'gets it' about what it takes to deal with a destructive partner and takes the reader step-by-step from the beginnings of grasping what is happening to her all the way to healing once the relationship has ended. Outstanding!

It is in your primary relationship that you should be able to feel the most sure of receiving kindness and support, of being carefully listened to, of being seen and understood.

An abusive man is at his most punishing when the woman moves toward health, independence, and social connection.

It was easier to talk about nothing than something. Because something was too terrible to discuss. Too dark and terrible to even think about.

While the two of them might never be the closest of friends, they had developed a connection that was important for each of them. When they'd needed someone, they'd found one another.

Volto à família: um ambiente duro em casa não prepara para enfrentar a dureza da vida, como alguns preconizam. Ao contrário: para saber defender-me no terreno violento em que vivemos preciso ter uma sólida raiz de afetos.

God is glorified not by calling strong women but by giving His strength to weak women.

algo está cambiando: la rebelión de niños y niñas está frente a nuestra mirada y resulta urgente escucharlos, acompañarlos a narrar sus historias de vida y mostrarles que hay millones de personas adultas dispuestas a salvarlos del destino manifiesto del machismo destructor.

In those days, I wanted to cry, I wanted to shout, I wanted to wring my hands and complain, and I did try to complain to some people, though I could never cry or complain as much as I wanted to. Some people listened and tried to be helpful, but they could never listen long enough; the conversation always had to come to an end.

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One gains courage from the one in front of her and moves forward a few steps, passing her by just a little. Now the one farthest back gains courage from the one in front and moves forward until she, in turn, is the leader. And so in this way, taking courage from one another, they advance, as a group, towards the strange thing in front of them.